I have seen similar and mine was no exception. For me, my ex wife has the emotional maturity of a child and always has, I just made excuses for her over the years. So her acting out (sneaking a grown ass woman into the house through an egress window, for example) is attention seeking behavior of a child. That is who I married. Once the glasses came off, it was clear for me to see that was her all along. Maybe thats true for most?