Has his sexual orientation been made open in the divorce proceedings? That he actually left you but is now making things worse? I would get a new lawyer if yours isn't aggressive enough. I would sue him for slander if he cannot substantiate it. I would make his life a living hell if he persists in attacking you personally. He chose his life and to walk out. I would let him endure the process and move on. Get yourself an order of protection, a firearm if necessary, and/or a good loyal guard dog. I wouldn't play his games anymore.