Anon2222 wrote:

I like the enthusiasm! As Blackie said, there will be ups and downs, but if you're overall still climbing the mountain at the end, you're doing good.

I still really struggle (and I've had some abysmal days....) but I signed up with a personal trainer (I too took comfort in food). I have a meal delivery service where a Dietitian planned out all my meals (and I don't have to cook anything woo!). And I went and got my lashes done (something I have never done before....and I just wanted to do something "girly"). I actually really like the look and plan to keep it up.



Thank you! This is so encouraging! I’m thinking there’s so much commonality to how some of us reacted to the pain. I think part of me put the weight on intentionally because if I’d stayed thin, I believe I would have left him. I think it was my unconscious commitment to our marriage. But it feels so good to think I’m ready to let this weight go and some of the pain with it. I know this has nothing to do with me- it’s all his stuff.
Also I too love the lashes and glamour! It’s fun to feel pretty again!!!
Thank you for your support! Good luck in your journey and see you on here! 💕



I spent years putting myself last. And accepting everyone else's sloppy seconds and being a people pleaser.

It feels good to finally take a step back and look at what I want. And make the time to do what I want (so what if work wants an extra shift....I am not moving my workouts!).  It makes a HUGE difference to finally put yourself first for a change.

And I just feel better about myself overall. I have perused a dating site, but nothing serious. And, at this point I want to continue to take time for myself, rather than get wrapped up in someone else.

The more you try new things, the more you get an emotional and psychological boost I've noticed. Keep on sharing your journey (the good, the bad and the ugly) as the people here get it.

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