OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / is She Gay - Will she ever comeout?

**Posted by RoseColoredGlasses** August 18, 2022 4:15 am

Replying to bandala33 saying “I’m scared of her.” I’m scared of mine, too. My gay in denial husband. It’s gone as far as a boyfriend who surfaced and stalked us, and GIDH still says I’m all he wants and it was a one time slip. It was more like 20 years of lies, me the cover story…cover wife, cover life. And I’m trying to get out, and I’m scared of the anger. He’s using it to keep me locked in a lie. So wrong. I’m sticking with plan A, a civil and circumspect spilt, for now. But if he bullies me, that’s it. It’s just not fair. If he bullies me, I’m going public, filing for divorce and letting the cards fall where they may. He has a high road we both can walk out on. He’s an idiot if he doesn’t stay there. The fear is such a bad sign, right? We are being manipulated. Ouch.

**Posted by Victo** August 21, 2022 5:21 pm

She sounds like a piece of work. She sounds so much like my own ex.

Here is how I routinely describe my own ex here:

“A GID narcissist abuser.”

My ex still has not admitted to being a lesbian despite being in a long term relationship with a woman. Process that for a moment.

My ex calls it ‘bisexuality’. From my pov, if there truly are two sexualities inside her, one is lesbian and the other is asexual. In my marriage, she was fully asexual - and she abused me/resented me for expressing my own masculine heterosexual behavior. Touching her, for example, was a no no, and she once told me that my touching her was extremely problematic and made her feel objectified.

Um….

I married a woman in order to touch her. If I wanted a no-touch relationship, the Internet would have satisfied me. Alas.

I could be wrong. I’m a stranger on the Internet. However, based on what you have written, I would also describe your wife as “a GID narcissist abuser”.