Alex1984 wrote:

. .... he may not be aware of all of his needs/desires......I don't want to program the outcome here...... our men have to build giant walls around their sexuality and live in denial for years just to protect themselves. I feel for them,but I also feel for us...

"our men" often rely on us thinking exactly the way you do.
But if you begin putting yourself and your needs above his, knock down the walls he's built so you can see what your life will be like and program your own outcome by putting yourself first...your decisions, whatever they are, will be made with you fully cognizant and accepting of your future.

Elle