Rob wrote:

Janet747,
I know the feeling...when we were divorcing and met with the parenting person for the court.. she basically told this stranger what a bad father I was..incapable of taking care of the kids.   That had to be the lowest point in my life on this earth.. after years of taking care of the kids, staying up with them to let her sleep etc..she had no problem lying to someone right in front of me...my tears did not diswade her..  its a horrible feeling when they lie and distort reality.   You give him too much credit saying its his reality..when we know in our bones they know they are lying.

If you think he is a person like this the only thing I can suggest is to get away.  You may not be able to get full custody but your kid will still have a strong, sane, unabused parent 50% or more of the time.   That is worth more than what he's doing to you both now.

Wishing you strength and fortitude on your journey.

That is terrible, I’m so sorry you had to go through that but glad you have now separated! That you for the clear advice! I am in great need of hearing these things!