Wonderful job, Phoenix. It took a lot of courage on your part to make yourself so vulnerable in telling of your pain. You can be sure other straight spouses will benefit from your honesty and from the checklist your experience led you to want to create.
I was also so grateful to hear Kristin say that the situation in which straight spouses live when their spouses hide their sexual orientation is a form of gaslighting and psychosexual abuse.
And on a lighter note, my professor's heart skipped a beat when you used the word "lexicon."
