Walk,

Its just not reality when they start talking.   My GX was cheating on me  and abusive.. but she said she was the victim.  The victim of what?   A kind and devoted husband I guess.   
They will always flip and project the situation onto them..  devoid of empathy and compassion they expect  it in loads from us..continuous entitlement.   My kids, friends, family, you guys here  get my empathy and compassion now.    These gay spouses;  in their cheating and breaking their marriage vows have forfeited all rights and privileges  to our compassion and empathy.  We have loads of it to give but its foolish to keep giving it to someone that continuously hurts us.   

Steady on..