Majenco, he sat me down a few months ago and said he had something important to discuss. It's an aspect of himself he hid from me for over 30 years. I did miss a few signs.  He has always sat down to pee, which I thought was a conditioned behavior because he is a heavy drinker and I honestly assumed he sat because he couldn't trust himself to aim.  A fear years ago he shaved all his body hair, but said that was common for men who do triathalons.  When I complained about the stubble of his chest making me raw, he got mad and we broke up awhile. Then there was unisex looking boy briefs that didn't phase me a bit. It was when I neglected my laundry and needed a quick pair of undies, borrowed a pair of unisex boy briefs.  That apparently made him feel like I wasn't uptight about men cross dressing.  That's what inspired him to tell me. Of course, the admission starts out slow and gentle, but last week he said he wants to start going out in public presenting as a female with me to bars or something a FEW TIMES A WEEK. We don't go out that often so all of a sudden, he wants to be a social butterfly.