Hello everyone I have been reading and learning from
All the posts on here since approximately last August, 2 months post "discovery" ...that my "husband"(and I use that term
Loosely) is somewhere on the "queer" spectrum...likely Bi, possibly gay or even a tranny(that possiblity being the last one I'm thinking)I have cried a million tears, not for the loss of love so
Much as the shock
Of being duped and lied to
For at least 9 years(earliest Craigslist line item
Posting I could find!) We have had a troubled marriage for a long time , off and on.My husband being a smoker and alcoholic(had an intervention Iin 2007, worked for maybe2-3 months tops) just complicates further a very complex situation ......my son is flying in from
LA tomorrow for 10 days, staying in our apartment where his father willingly chose the couch because "the air in that bedroom is FRIGID"hah! Next joke He has been sleeping on that couch for about 7 months...weird situation I know but a lot of the time we have trouble being in the same room
For any length of timeMy son has not seen his dad  Since summer 2015, when we both visited and stayed (together of course) in the guest room ..we still
Had issues as does our son and his wife , over the smoking and beer drinking; though the drinking was toned down for a wihile and didn't  become a serious issue for us till AFTER June 2016...That month I was feeling well (I have a chronic health condition) and was ready to accept a part time job in the senior care field, as I had lost my job in 2013...We are  both seniors my husband a vet and hasn't worked since 2008...the big recession! Wow this just gets more crazy sad pathetic bizarre (to me STILL)I found incriminating things on an open laptop E mail
Account and got sick so sick but it just fueled my desire for more info! His desire is for men , mine was for info
On what where and how he was doing with men!! I had no guilt about sneaking peeks because it seemed logical to
Hunt down all the evidence I could find and nail
Him
With it.........0mg , I've taken to writing a tragic novel here
Sign off for now, just needed to START somewhere ....its late so stay tuned for part 2 , thanks y'all for being a shoulder and a source !PEACE!!!