We've been together since high school, married and twenty and share 5 kids together. Our oldest two are young adults in college. We still have three at home.

Four years ago, during an intimate exchange where I saw that he had worn my panties all day and asked him about it he confessed to cross dressing our entire marriage. We put it back in the closet. This came as a complete shock to me, as he was someone who I viewed as very masculine and had always worked a blue collar union job.

After we moved an hour a way the next year, he started making phyiscal changes like, growing his hair, shaving his legs, wearing bikini mens underwear.

We started therapy earlier this year individually and as couple, even though we know divorce is imminent.
I'm struggling at this point because he's wearing his hair long, shaving his entire body, including his beard, wearing mostly womens pants, jeans, shirts. He started using all pronouns in social setttings. Refuses to acknowlege the changes and take accountability for his actions. 

I want him out of my house. I guess Im just looking for support that I'm not in the wrong here. I think after 28 years I deserve to have some knowledge of his plans, especially for the sake of our children. I feel like he wants to be treated with kid gloves, and he doesn't want to face the facts.