sorry to hear that, David.  Yes get to a lawyer is the necessary step.  Do you know anyone who can recommend a good lawyer?

and yes, stay calm.  Talk to your family if possible.  My ex was more underhanded - he was siphoning money out of the joint account into an account he had opened for himself in secret.

I came to be glad when I was feeling angry - I used the energy of it to do the next task in front of me to divorce him.  That worked very well.

Hugs.  I know it's hell, and it's only going to get worse for a while but there is light at the end of the dark tunnel.  I am hoping you have family that will support and aid you.  wishing you all the best.

oh family support and lawyers - that's good to hear.  

Maybe it is not so with your wife but one thing I have observed a lot is the lesbian wife using the children as a way to manipulate the father.  I don't think you have any defence but being aware of what she is doing might help, particularly in terms of the divorce settlement.

 

Tabor, this is an excerpt from a post on page one and here we are on page three?

Have you even read this topic in full?

You use the words harsh ignorant and callous to describe my views - that borders on being personally insulting.

I would like to think you have read all my posts on this topic before taking me to task for my views.  Here is the post you have taken exception to -

"My view is the term bisexuality is a modern addition to the term gay in denial.

And certainly that is borne out by the number of people who are bisexual then when it comes to midlife crisis they start saying they are gay. There's even a saying - bi now gay later.  

How genuine the person is is what you learn next."

My ex was staunchly gay in denial until finally I asked him if he might be bisexual and he admitted to that for two weeks then went back to straight out gay in denial when I didn't say oh that's okay then and shut up.

I kept on saying that's not the same as straight, you should have told me.  

It was when he reverted back to insisting he was straight and intimating that if I thought different that would make me unsound of mind that I realised I had to get divorced as quickly as I could.
 

I don't think we're going to get very far debating this.  I think you will have to accept I still believe my view is valid and I don't think you are interested in questioning your own view, so all the best.

but I do have a question - do you think bisexuals make good partners for straights?

These last several posts are odd to me. Everyone can have their opinion. Yes, there are facts, such as the world being round. When it comes to things such as sexuality, the source information is often....drum roll.....the people claiming they are telling the truth. It is unfortunate that anyone would dismiss something that absolutely no one here can disprove, again, because the source data is based on asking people questions and them telling the truth. 

Regardless, does it matter? If one partner is in a committed relationship and the other is bi, Straight, trans, whatever, but does not disclose that information, or in many cases, flat out lies about it, they are not a good partner, period. Would your wonderful bi=husband get a pass for an affair with a man, because its a gay affair vs. cheating with a woman? I mean, thats your life, no judgement..but I would argue that's a horrible partner regardless of the reason. 

Science, psychology is a science, but there is a reason is psychology is called a SOFT science. This term is used to distinguish it from "hard sciences" like physics and chemistry, which are seen as having more established, quantifiable, and predictable results. So please spare me the science trumps all, when your science is truly soft at best.

Btw, I agree, I do think bi people exist, but lets not pretend this is equivalent to the round earth, not even close my friend. Enjoy the evening.