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1 of 1- Brokenheart
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Feeling Detached
Married for about 13 years now, can’t believe it’s been so long.
I found out about my husband few months into our wedding. I wanted to divorce right away but due to cultural norms, it’s not something that can be broken off without solid reasons. I didn’t want to out him to my father, even though I told my mother.
Anyway after many tears from both sides, I decided to give it a shot. He doesn’t seek out anyone but he’ll be looking at inappropriate content, he was previously on the Grindr app too, not sure what that was all about, but according to him it’s all for fun.
In this process we have three kids, at this point I don’t know what or if anything is left between us. According to him, he loves me. I don’t know anything. I don’t even know why I’m here writing all this. I feel like I have to keep it together for the sake of my kids. I feel dead inside. He’s an amazing father and husband, he will bring you the moon if you said you wanted it.
I am just looking for support in trying to manage my feelings because I feel duped and alone.
Last edited by Brokenheart (April 19, 2025 9:32 pm)
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Re: Feeling Detached
Brokenheart wrote:
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Firstly Broken welcome to our Forum.
My former partner was a good man too. Great father, generous with his time, hard worker and he would have stayed with me forever because he didn't have to work through all the emotional toil of having a spouse who was same-sex attracted. He didn't have mistrust/concerns. He was able to separate me and his other hidden desires.
So it may sound harsh but this will be your decision. .. about how you want your future to look.
I decided after 32 years that I was no longer interested in intimacy with A. but it took another 6 years to gather together the information and support I would need to finally separate.
This site, and this board especially, are here for you 🙏 as they were for me
Elle
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