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- Lostperson
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Re: Help with direction
Ellexoh_nz wrote:
Thanks ..he loves the kids I have no doubt but I think he is just pressuring me and he knows how it hurts when I'm away from them.
He tells me that he is trying to advocate for himself .
Do you think he's advocating for himself because he is apprehensive about 'outing' himself to more people?
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I'm not sure ! Sometimes I feel I'm being too harsh on him ..and maybe he just really wants to be with the kids ...
I wish I can protect my kids...I wish I chose any different person...I wish he was publicly terrible so I can end this misery ...
The problem is sometimes he is nice and sometimes he is awful .The inconsistency makes me doubt everything .
- Alex1984
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Re: Help with direction
Hi Lost, I'm really sorry you are in this situation. May I tell you what my very blunt Russian grandmother used to say? "If you mix a pound of jam with a pound of sh*t - you get two pounds of sh*t"
If a person is sometimes nice and sometimes awful - it doesn't make them "half-decent", it just makes them awful. Sorry.
- Lostperson
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Re: Help with direction
Hi Lost, I'm really sorry you are in this situation. May I tell you what my very blunt Russian grandmother used to say? "If you mix a pound of jam with a pound of sh*t - you get two pounds of sh*t"
If a person is sometimes nice and sometimes awful - it doesn't make them "half-decent", it just makes them awful. Sorry.
Thank you for your directness...
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Thread Starter- Ellexoh_nz
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Re: Help with direction
......The problem is sometimes he is nice and sometimes he is awful .The inconsistency makes me doubt everything .
The inconsistency will continue to keep you off balance until you are more resolute in your
decisions and become clear about the direction you want your life to take.
For myself I can remember clearly the moments when I decided the steps I had to take were now! It was a
mindshift from thinking about "us" to believing in "me".
I had to go through many months/years of self-analysis though, plus my children were adults so didn't have that extra responsibility to take into consideration.
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