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    May 5, 2024 8:08 pm  #21

    OutofHisCloset
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    Re: Transitioning soon to be Ex-husband

    OSusanne  

       It's okay to be hurt and angry.  It would be alarming if you weren't hurt and angry!  He's turned your life, and the life of your family upside down.  

       Because you are a stay-at-home wife and mother, and your husband is holding the purse strings, you are understandably worried that he will go further off the deep end and stop paying your bills. You shouldn't have to accept his acting out in order to have a roof over your head.  I suspect that right now it feels as if he's holding all the cards.

      I suggest you go and see a lawyer, to see what you are entitled to of your marital property, child support, etc.  Knowledge is power, and you very much need to shift the balance of power.  I also suggest you do this without telling him.  You have cards of your own to play, but you need to keep them and play them close to your chest (out of his sight).  

     

    May 9, 2024 7:21 am  #22

    Rob
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    Re: Transitioning soon to be Ex-husband

    OSusanne,

    My GX was a stay at home mom and such was her gay love and now hatred of me that she didn't care how she would live financially.  I funded her whole gay affair, the divorce and now pay her a nice income that pays half her bills.  She had to get a job much to her anger and could not live totally off me anymore but she definitely had so many legal rights that she's doing quite well now in her new gay life.

    My advice is we all have different circumstances.   Do whatever you need to do..stay, go etc. But definitely take small steps each day to move toward ending the hurt.  Talk to a lawyer to see what is possible. Even if you have to save a dollar a day for years..know that one day you can end the hurt.

    "For we walk by faith, not by sight .."  2Corinthians 5:7
     

     

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