chelhell wrote:

I think victims should be speaking to each other and exchanging information rather than staying silent and protecting the perpetrator. What does "GX" mean?

Interesting. I am similar in the sense I do not subscribe to any religion or particular religious doctrine. That said, I agree and disagree. I agree it is important to help others and speak out, but I disagree that it is your responsibility to chase this down and do it at your own peril. I have thought the same of telling my GX (Gay ex) that my ex-wife looks for men while telling the world she is a lesbian to avoid responsibility for breaking her vows to me and destroying our family. But you know what? Maybe her new girlfriend likes the same? Or maybe she doesn't and is being lied too just like I was for years. I could try to find out, but I simply do not care. I can not solve all of the worlds problems and involving myself in that business where I know I am dealing with a highly manipulative, narcissistic person, I feel I only increase the probability of damage vs. helping. The new partner will figure it out....or they won't. My job is to protect my kids, not this other grown ass adult from making bad decisions. 

I understand your point of view and in many cases I agree, but not in this one. I wish you the best of luck.