I think its posible, but the common theme here is, the partner that comes out, usually does so in a mean, selfish, only care about themself way that makes staying in each others lives difficult. For example, when I thought my ex was just gay, I was super supportive albeit devasted. Over time, the lying got so bad, the gaslighting, she was a 42 year old PHD crawling other women into our home through egress windows while the kids and I were home. Taping up cameras to hide her behavior. Acting like a child. Said she wasnt going to take my retirement....she did just that. I've learned she isnt who I thought she was, and I dont mean gay. I mean, she is not a kind or good person, therefore we are co-parents and nothing more. 

If you have respect and adult behavior on both sides, no reason it cant work in my opinion. I would have preferred that

So much of this depends on how your spouse has behaved, before, during, and afterwards.
It's also important to have a good relationship with yourself.
 

Onahealingpath - thank you for sharing your story.  I have seen similar red flags as my husband has confessed that he's bisexual but really GID.  My GID husband only confessed after a year after welcoming his new 'friends' into our life.  I like to call it the event that changed the trajectory of our marriage, my GID husband decided to lie and not come home 4 days after a work trip. This was in 2021 when he swears to this day that he went to New York for another business trip, but his phone was off the entire time! He wanted me to believe that he would be out of the country and unreachable. Fast forward to 2022, and he says that he's going camping with his friends on his birthday. After reading your story, now I understand what type of camping trip it was! I looked up gay campgrounds in my area and found several where he said he was traveling! My suspicions lead me to believe that he went on a camping trip in 2021 too!  I have already started the legal process to get a divorce. However, these lies damage our chances of actually being friends in the future. This is not my definition of friendship. I have to accept this. It's hard because I love him but he can't take my love for granted. We both are committed to raising our children in love and a positive household. 

The blessing is I would still be in the phase of TRYING to make my marriage work if I didn't find this forum. I understand that my story is not unique. I had to listen to the stories of those who have given years of trying to 'fix' their marriage.   It's not an easy road at the moment but I believe it will get better! 

Onahealingpath - Thank you. I appreciate all of the positive thoughts. Have you considered moving closer to your grandchildren once the divorce is final? 

Onahealingpath - I love it! I've noticed being comfortable in my identity, knowing my self-worth, and enjoying my hobbies have been not only therapeutic, but it pushes me to think about what I really want out of life. Good for you to know what will work for you! You're my Shero :-)!