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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
Elle,
My GX would tick heterosexual also... when you spend a life hiding your homesexuality... it comes with ease to hide it and appear hetersexual.
Cold gray day here and my GX texted me about the one kid... as if we were married.
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7
- Anon2222
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
So....I made an appointment with a lawyer....next Wednesday. We'll see how this goes.
- OutofHisCloset
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
Anon: Good for you!
Ellexoh: I'm sure my ex would do the same thing.
- Ellexoh_nz
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
Anon2222 wrote:
So....I made an appointment with a lawyer....next Wednesday. We'll see how this goes.
Well done. That is good news 🤗
Now in the meantime... When you have doubts and hesitation....take some deep breaths and remember you're doing this for your future and survival.
E
KIA KAHA
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
Why doesn’t this surprise me 😉🙃. But of course. Oh the ShitShow we Straight Spouses Endure.
Always, True 💟
"And you will know the truth, & the truth will set you free"
John 8:32
True ❤️.
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
Full of sadness, indecision and disconnection.
This morning I made an appointment for a phone consult, stated it was about separating. I have to do this now, and besides you all understanding why...I'm saying it here because I can't turn around now and say I couldn't go through with it.
I'm 65 in May. If I live as long as my mother I'll have 20 more years and I don't want them to be like my life is now. I don't know where I'll live, or how but if I don't begin the end of us now I'm scared I'll be in this hell forever.
It's 7.13am here. The phone consult is at 12.15
Elle
Good for you, I’m proud of you for being brave moving forward in your “ New Path & Healthy Direction”. I’m your age & have similar issues as we Straight Spouses do. Common denominator. Hang in there we are here for you.
I wish I was as brave as you, I’m not quite there yet.
True 🤗💫
"And you will know the truth, & the truth will set you free"
John 8:32
True ❤️.
- Ellexoh_nz
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.... I wish I was as brave as you, I’m not quite there yet.
True 🤗💫
I don't feel brave. I feel sick and scared and alone.
After 2 weeks of silence today my partner sent me a list of our assets. We'll have a talk about it and each take it to a lawyer. I did give him some forms explaining why a collaborative separation was better than a combative one and that there are lawyers who specialise in this....but who knows who and which type of lawyer he'll choose.
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
I don't feel brave. I feel sick and scared and alone.
E
I'm a willing ear or virtual shoulder to cry on if needed. I'm also right there beside you...this is such a horrible process and we all need as much support as we can get!
- Ellexoh_nz
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....I'm a willing ear or virtual shoulder to cry on if needed. I'm also right there beside you...this is such a horrible process and we all need as much support as we can get!
Through the aloneness and apprehension I
know I have to get through this.
Thanks for the shoulder..and the ear, I know you're all there I just wish you were all here 🙂
Elle
How are you feeling about your app in a couple of days Anon?
KIA KAHA
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Re: 2022 was a fucked-up year
Elle,
I don't know if this will apply to you, but I'm saying it because forewarned is forearmed.
My ex was someone who avoided, closed down, resorted to silence, and liked to ignore the elephant in the room, and I think you have said similar things about your partner. However, once the process was started, I was amazed to see how proactive my ex was on his own behalf when it came to assets. So you will need to be prepared to stand firm and stand up to him, and at a time when you don't feel strong at all.