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    February 6, 2022 2:08 pm  #11

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    Soaplife, thank you so much.  It's good to hear that from someone who's been there.

     

    February 6, 2022 2:18 pm  #12

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    Re: Four years ago today...

    Hi MJM017.  I keep thinking karma has GOT to catch up with the man someday!  We live in a rural, resort type setting amongst folks that have known him for years and they have no idea.  It's surreal for me.  Finding the right therapist within a 100 mile radius in the time of covid is challenging but I also believe that it would be very helpful, and will continue to seek one.  Thank you.

     

    February 6, 2022 2:50 pm  #13

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    Re: Four years ago today...

    Hi OoHC.  I think more patience with myself and the process is in order. 

    Thanks so much for your suggestions about how to respond to friends who think I should be past it.
    Coincidently today,  I was talking with a friend on the phone and mentioned I was bouncing back from a low after seeing him with a woman.  When I mentioned how distressing it was to know that he could be doing the same thing to her, the friend said, regarding the woman, "Well, people make choices...."    I said, You can't choose something you aren't aware of.  
    I saw the friend later, and apologized for being abrupt in my response to her, but explained that the statement "people make choices" suggests that I chose to marry my CD GIDXH.  She immediately saw the point.  I think she was trying to convince me not to stress about the woman's welfare, and never thought the comment through.

    This is a hard, lonely path.  I'm so thankful for everyone here.

     

     

     

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