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July 29, 2021 6:46 am  #21


Re: Things can change so quickly all of a sudden - whiplash

The poor me baseline, i encounter this at least once a day.  It is the introduction to every conversation my GH has with me.  I swear to you guys I never noticed it in my previous happy life.

 

July 29, 2021 6:52 am  #22


Re: Things can change so quickly all of a sudden - whiplash

Yes, I so get where you find yourself at the moment. I believe you. I felt the same way. Just stand back now, stay calm and watch and listen, listen well. Keep in this state and you will see things clearly. Seeing things clearly will help lay your plans down.

Take care of you, find a means of releasing the emotional buildup. It’s building in you now. This is what you have to monitor in yourself and manage in a way outside his line of vision. Always outside his line of vision. No emotions when you are  with him, to the degree possible. Only you know what the degree is.

Last edited by longwayhome (July 29, 2021 6:54 am)


I never cease to wonder at the cruelty of this land, but it seems a time of sadness is a time to understand, is it mine, oh lord is it mine, when everything is dark ….. Roger Hodgson. 
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July 30, 2021 6:36 am  #23


Re: Things can change so quickly all of a sudden - whiplash

Newtotheclub,

Just sharing a video that I think may help you with the awareness piece and the importance of managing the emotional piece.

It’s helpful info to help managing the chaos.

Just take the tips/pieces that can help you, leave what you don’t want. Just thought I’d share.

First one: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qnNlhresvFw&t=0s

Second one: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qnNlhresvFw&t=0s#searching

Triggers nothing to be ashamed of:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=65LtmYvht8Y&pp=sAQA

How to protect/communicate-firewall yourself:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uwtwnIxSO9s


Interception
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=N2CzUIS2y0U

More strategies:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RtoH3KwVy9k&pp=sAQA

Polarity Management 101 (Is it a problem to solve or manage?):
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=L8tZDigFAJk&pp=sAQA

Vulnerability Berne Brown (one of my fav)
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jDyeqihHVDY&pp=sAQA

Last edited by longwayhome (August 14, 2021 10:02 am)


I never cease to wonder at the cruelty of this land, but it seems a time of sadness is a time to understand, is it mine, oh lord is it mine, when everything is dark ….. Roger Hodgson. 
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