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- Upside
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Re: Disclosure and Vulnerability
Interesting thought Lily.
I can only say for my case, my GID ex-wife had daddy issues. This set-up the model that men were useful financial resources, but bad emotional resources. This inability to connect to men emotionally was the foundation for her sexual attraction to women.
I'd also say that one trend I've seen in my life and here is that GID spouses knew in early adolescence they were attracted to the opposite sex. This is not something that appears at 30 years old. Again, in my case, it came out 25 years after the fact, but her mother had caught her with pornography of women as a teen and screamed at her for being disgusting. This shaming caused her to find a boyfriend to prove she wasn't gay. And I was the lucky guy selected.
And we're back where we started: vulnerability and disclosure.
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Re: Disclosure and Vulnerability
It's her genetic material that's the foundation of her sexual attraction isn't it?
The normal thing is to be aware in childhood without knowing what's involved - feelings spring up, I can still remember the name of the first boy where we had a bit of a thing going - and we would have been 6. all entirely innocent but it's a particular feeling. isn't it, that interest in a person.
At 10, still at the same school it was a noticeable moment I still remember, he is looking across at me, it is intense and his dark eyes look very attractive and my gaze is caught by the booger coming out his nose. still all very innocent but more sizzle.
and then adolescence hits.
so yeah this is of course an entirely presumptive guess due to the blaming of her father and the screaming from the mother but maybe her mother is GID?
My ex's father was very similar to him.