I can only tell you my experience. It's important I get it off my chest. My ex may be like yours. I don't want you to suffer like I did. When I suspected my ex was gay it was because he didn't want to do oral sex on me and he no longer wanted intercourse. He'd want me to do oral sex on him but my body was now gross. He'd try to make me feel as though I wasn't attractive and that sex was not necessary. I was and still am beautiful but he didn't want me like a straight man would. I've slept with straight men I know when I'm wanted. Then his friend would try to flirt with him. I later found out his friend was gay because he admitted it but my ex would always deny it. I now realize he had a group of men that would lie to me while they slept with each other. When shove came to push he preferred to poison my food to make me think I was crazy along with his gaslighting behavior. Men like this are dangerous. Get out before it gets bad. Say my needs are not met. The courts won't believe you about his cover and there's no use bringing it up. So be smart about how you divorce and you might be ok. I have to say my trauma isn't over but it's now my turn to warn the wives. Please don't stay if you are unhappy. Don't let it happen to you.