I do not read the MOM's section usually because after 30+ years of marriage my husband, who had acknowledged during marriage counseling early on that he was "Bi", told me that he was gay and wanted a divorce. Despite his promise then that he wanted only me and our re-commitment to each other it was not enough. We did not grow apart: I did not grow a part he wanted.  

If you have had a close and loving relationship, including sex, then your experience has been different than mine and probably most of the women who post here. You are in a honeymoon stage now and I surely hope that your husband will continue to curb his desire to be with a man. Please be more compassionate though and patient with those who come here with pain and anger. Healing cannot begin until it all comes out.

Tangled,

It would never be for me but I get, as do all of us who post, why people stay in a MOM. I wonder if some of those honor killings in the non Western world are because a straight wife says her husband is not straight.

You promised me a pm about what incident led you to come here. You don't have to do that. Maybe you'll post it here? Again, I wonder why come here if your marriage is great.

 I'm surprised you are picking Reddit and Discord as platforms for your MOM groups. The audience there skews young and abusive. We're no match for their pranks and shenanigans (and racism, sexism and anti-semitism).

I hope you don't mind me asking: Are you looking to earn money on Discord? I know it's possible.

Here's one explanation:

https://www.solointel.com/how-you-can-make-money-from-a-discord-server/

If Discord agrees to allow you to use your server for commercial use, here are some ways to monetize it.

10 Ways to Make Money from Your Discord Server:

1)  Create private areas for Patreon supporters only

2)  Make the entire server for paid members only

3)  Accept donations from people who want to support your community

4)  Get sponsorships from businesses

5)  Sign up with a Discord ad network

6)  Make a bot with free and paid features

7)  Charge to advertise other Discord servers

8)  Offer meaningful affiliate products to your community

9)  Run paid competitions

10) Direct people to a paid website with tutorials, guides, etc.

Is your Discord area open to anyone? Can I see it?


 

Tangled, of course you can message me. I misunderstood.

I belonged to a few personality disorder subreddits. The trolls found their way in. Admins had to carefully watch the subreddits to ban problem posters. I read skincare and fashion subreddits occasionally now.

The Alt newsgroup boards (usenet) from the 80s/90s were wrecked by trolls. There was no admin for thousands of groups. A small company owned the servers and sold them to Google in 2000 or so.

May I have an invite to your Discord group?  I won't cause trouble. You can delete me if I do.  Thanks
 

Last edited by MJM017 (May 24, 2021 11:43 pm)

MJM, 

As one of the moderators of the subReddit I have only had to ban one person so far. It wasn’t a difficult decision to make. The person was a man who had said he had always known he was gay and he seemed to enjoy antagonizing the straight spouses. I made the decision to ban him in less than 15 minutes.

I would not be able to send you an invite to the discord group as there are three of us that join together and discuss who we will invite. The invitees have to meet the following criteria... currently in a MOM with a gay/lesbian or bi spouse. 

Tangled 

Deleted and reposted on the General board in Tangled's thread

Last edited by Ellexoh_nz (May 25, 2021 1:24 pm)