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- Soaplife
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Re: Need some Advice
SAguy, nailed it. Remember whose actions broke your marriage and who tried to hold it together and hold your head high my friend. You and your kids will get through this to a better life on the other side.
I didn't believe this when people said it but five years later I can attest its true. The pain of divorce is worth it for an honest life, and loving, healthy relationships with my kids. We all see the truth of who my ex is now.
One step at a time and you will get through.
- Blue Bear
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Re: Need some Advice
It sounds like you are processing your thoughts well. You should be proud of yourself.
As for couple’s therapy? It’s a total waste of time. My LEX used our two disastrous sessions as opportunities to crap all over me and point out all of my “faults” and “contribution” to the demise of our marriage. At the time, I listened to her because she was still the person who I trusted and loved the most in the world. She is a narcissist, a species which refuses to take blame for anything. My suggestion is to not waste your time.
The key thing I learned from individual therapy was that I was guilty of only one thing: I wasn’t the lesbian she never told me she needed.