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Re: Snooping for Curious Spouses
Thank you, Maria! I'm sorry, just seeing this now. Will flow in.
Update: v1.03 - Added in a section about Bluetooth and Wi-Fi connections, Google Hangouts, and Dehashed.
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After all this,…and, I really hate to say it, because if it had been this way when I searched when my husband was cheating…if it was this way, I never would have found all the stuff I found on his computer. Even though it was AT&T and a contact in his phone that I matched to their records that did the ‘trick, I never would have even thought to look there if I hadn’t found all that stuff on the computer. I learned how to find deleted searches and more…
NOW YOU CAN’T DO THAT on Chrome and probably others. I haven’t looked.
They have “Incognito” mode now, where you can search and leave absolutely NO history…….NONE. So, deleted history doesn’t matter since there is none. It’s on iPads and computers. The industry has made it easy to cheat.
phtttttt!
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Hi Susanne,
Maybe Upside can chime in. I'm an IT person - mostly software and databases Am not into programming browsers or operating systems where history can be seen. I'll try to poke around my stuff (an iPhone and an MS laptop).
You can delete easily google search history w/o resorting to incognito mode in Chrome. I use Firefox by Mozilla mostly and it's the same. Apple Safari and MS Edge are the other ones people use. I googled how to do it for all. It's easy.
What about disabling virus protection software like Norton or McAfee? Viruses mean they've gone to porn sites.
Sometimes good old gut feeling/instincts/intuition and a visit to ChumpLady are better. Slamming doors and nasty looks can work to your advantage.
Hope all is ok.
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No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa
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I was able to look up website passwords (along with the website name) that were set to autofill in the Chrome incognito tab. You click on the vertical three dots on the upper right and select Settings. It takes you right there.
Bookmarks are there too. It's a pain to delete those. Downloads and history can be easily cleared though. Sorry if a repeat.
Your spouses may use a password vault and bypass the autofill for passwords.
No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa
- Ellexoh_nz
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MJM017 wrote:
It was so exhausting.....this snooping, when I thought I had to do it.!
and such a relief when it didn't matter anymore
I just wish I could live my life over. Wish I'd known/been strong enough, when
the Mindfuck showed itself as the life-changing thing it was, to draw a line in
the sand and step over it and away. No snooping, no argument, no compromise
Damn it....*I* will never be who I was.
KIA KAHA
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I am certain my late GIDXH simply left the house to find action. It may be true for your male partner, especially if you haven't heard of arrests for indecent exposure in your locale. A private detective may be your best bet.
I found an old article explaining why cruising is a popular activity despite hookup apps.
An excerpt:
He frequently hooks up with other men in the park. That includes men he's sure live their lives as straight, based in part on how self-loathing they seem after sex.
Despite the fact there's no lighting in much of the park, and rats were scurrying around nearby, the man said, "For me, this is one of the safest places I know. I know the dynamics. I know what people are looking for. I've had a lot of fun here."
However, he added, "If you really think you're going to have a solid relationship" with anyone you meet there, "you have to understand this is where you met them, and this is what it is."
No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa
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Private detectives are expensive. There was a poster who placed a GPS tracker in her h's vehicle. GPS placed him at a public park/rest stop where anonymous gay hookups were occurring.
Here's the post:
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No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa