OurPath Open Forum
This forum is for discussion of issues related to Mixed Orientation relationships only, that is when one partner is heterosexual (straight) and one is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender or Questioning.
If this does not apply to your topic, please find another forum.
* Opinions posted here, including that of the Administrator, are the poster's own and do not necessarily reflect the views or policies of OurPath.
* As a peer-to-peer network, any advice given is that of a peer, based on personal experience, and should not be considered professional in nature.
* Any discussion of LGBT related issues is acceptable provided it remains constructive and respectful of other viewpoints. Hateful, degrading, or prejudiced speech and/or personal attacks will not be tolerated.
NOTE: Due to recurring spam abuse, you must register to post.
1 of 1- LostAtSea
- Unregistered
Telling your parents
I don't know how many of you do it. I finally told my mom about my stbx trans news. She took it well as could be. She's so sweet told me not to harbor any ill will towards him. That now he's a changed person and there's no coming back.
She told my dad last night. They both cried for the lost of their favorite son in law. He's in town for 1 more night and I don't know why I have to beg him to see them and explain. Or why I even had to beg and ask for a face to face.
Even though the shame is overwhelming, if you can come out to your friends, don't you think you owe your in-laws and explanation and apology for all the deceit and lies? 16 years they invested in him.
This blows my mind how inconsiderate he is now. When he came into town, my sister picked him up and took them to my mom's house and she cooked for him.
My heart is hurting for my parents.
- 38yrsGAMEOVER
- Member
Offline
Re: Telling your parents
I'm sure this is hard on your parent's but I'm also sure they are more devastated and concerned about your well being! I'm sorry you are going through this mind twist!!!
- OutofHisCloset
- Member
Offline
Re: Telling your parents
He doesn't want to have to see your parents, his in-laws, because then he has to come face to face with the unpleasant consequences of his actions/choices, and it will make him uncomfortable, which he'd rather not have to feel.
With my ex it was our son. When he told me he wanted to transition, and was so excited about it, I asked him, "What about [our son]?" He wouldn't even reply. I asked numerous times, and he simply refused to engage the question. Too much cognitive dissonance. I was stunned and infuriated, just as you are. They really are on beyond inconsiderate!