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    January 19, 2021 7:52 pm  #21

    Beijoux
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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    thank you Longwayhome...everything sometimes as clear as mud...

    "Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32).
     

    January 19, 2021 7:53 pm  #22

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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    yes me too - sorry for your loss.

    Just want to add, if there is any sort of inheritance it might be wise to keep it separate.

     

    January 19, 2021 7:55 pm  #23

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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    Thank you Lily, No inheritance, dad had a second wife...

    "Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32).
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    January 19, 2021 8:55 pm  #24

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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    I’m so sorry to hear of your father’s passing.

    The straight woman who knowingly married a gay man is YazPistachio. There’s also interesting research on straight women married to gay identified man. Link below... 

    https://lib.dr.iastate.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=4471&context=etd

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    January 19, 2021 9:03 pm  #25

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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    Thank you so much TangleOil. Will also follow up on the link and YazPistachio.

    "Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32).
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    January 20, 2021 12:10 am  #26

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    My sympathies on your loss.

     

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    January 20, 2021 12:51 am  #27

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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    Thank you Daryl...my life is a mess at the moment. Thank God that I am not at work yet...back to teaching in a week and a bit....

    "Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32).
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    January 20, 2021 12:22 pm  #28

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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    Beijoux,

    I am SO sorry to hear of the passing of your father. That’s hard on any day, and during this really hard time, i know it’s got to be messing with your head. 

    I don’t know if you’re religious. I am, and when my loved ones pass, I am comforted by the knowledge that they are home with God. That’s what got me through the passing of my first husband. For what it’s worth.

    ((((HUGS))))

     

    January 20, 2021 3:16 pm  #29

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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    Beijoux wrote:

    ...... My dad passed away 2 days ago.........

    I'm sorry for your loss Beijoux....were you close to your Dad

    Elle 

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    January 21, 2021 1:58 am  #30

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    Re: I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

    Thank you SusanneH and Ellexoh. 'they are home with God'. For sure I believe that... yes, I was very close to my dad, but never shared with him, about my husband. That would have been a very low point for him...

    "Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32).
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