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    October 20, 2020 2:27 pm  #11

    TangledOil
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    Re: If monogamous, how does your partner deal with same sex desire?

    Susanne, 

    You’re absolutely correct. I didn’t intend to minimize it by calling it “penis play.” Through a lot of reading online it seems many boys/teens engage in what they call “penis play” and some of them continue throughout the adult years and still continue to call it by that name throughout all their years. I’m surprised at how many of their wives seem to be okay with it. 

    Regarding monogamy, my husband says he’s never been unfaithful and I believe him. I know he’s watched gay porn on and off throughout our marriage and, maybe I’m a weirdo, but that’s never bothered me probably because he’s been doing it since we started dating. I always thought it was somewhat odd and grayish of course, but it didn’t bother me. We used to watch it together, but I got pissed off over it 10 years ago and he’s been watching it without me and feeling guilty... feeling that it was cheating. 

    I told him just like he needs certain things to feel whole, so do I and one of the MAJOR things I need is monogamy. Without monogamy I don’t think I can feel safe, secure, respected, and loved. He gets my point in every possibly way. 

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    October 20, 2020 5:12 pm  #12

    SusanneH
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    Re: If monogamous, how does your partner deal with same sex desire?

    TO, I imagine he called it something like that, too when he was younger. 

    I’m glad your husband has been faithful. That has to make it easier. I wouldn’t mind the bi if he hadn’t been with so many men....... he says he doesn’t want to ( right now). I think it’s because of all he’s had to go through with me. I told him I’m concerned what will happen when things are going well & “normally “. 

    But, that isn’t living one day at a time like I should 🙃

     

     

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