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- Rob
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Re: Just out of curiosity
I will admit I had trauma bonding or "insane loyalty". It actually drove my GX mad as I refused to be unkind in person to her...it was so unlike me to be cruel and mean.
In the end though..she was hurting me and I was hurting me with her. At some point my support people; family, priest, psychiatrist, lawyer etc made me see that she did not have the right to do this.
She was not a God, a demigod or a supreme being.
We love them but they hurt us. This is not us leaving them, this is them rejecting us.
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7