Thank you Susanne. I try not to pay attention, but I feel like almost all media has to shove it in our faces non-stop. I absolutely know there are some shows, movies, whatever... I need to avoid like the plague. My husband understands this too. Oh... my 12 year old daughter was watching a tween type show on Disney and one girl in the show said her parents divorced because her dad is gay. She was all chipper and happy about it too like it was the greatest thing ever. So annoying! 

TangledOil wrote:

Almost all my stress related to being in a MOM comes from various media sources and not from my husband. 

This was exactly the same for me. We talked openly and honestly, and I felt assured it was okay and we were on the right track... Then some days later I would read an article on internet, which usually contained triggers that worried me. Filling my thoughts with uncertainty and anxiety. So again I had to talk with my wife about more or less the same things we already had talked about. This pattern repeated over and over, like going arround in circles.
This was also to the frustration of my wife. She kept reminding me it's not about statistics or what/how other people choose, but about how WE deal with it and the persons WE are.

Maybe I tried to confront myself with those stories, hoping it would somehow prove the way we went was alright. But it nearly always had the opposite effect. 
It's much more sensible to focus on your own situation, your personalities and your relation, what you as a couple want to achieve and the choices you both take. That's decisive and nothing else.
Also I started looking for possitive input only and stories that align with our goal. That felt so much better and helped us to make progress. Not allowing negative input to break down what is already achieved in understanding and acceptance of eachother, instead building further upon it.

Nowadays all those stories etc. on the internet and media don't upset me anymore, ie. not in the sense that it makes me uncertain or anxious. We're years later and way beyond that. 
But while in the process of finding your way in your MOM and rebuilding trust, it's all still very vulnerable.

Some personal experience about television and the media:
Last year we agreed to be interviewed for a documentary about "christians and homosexuality". The interviewer and technical people came across trustworthy and reacted very possitive to our story. We hoped our views and experiences could be helpfull to others, so we gathered our courage (it would be broadcasted on national TV) and told the story about our life on camera.
But when it aired some months later (during pride week), we couldn't believe our eyes and ears. They had edited the footage into a totally different story, in many aspects the very opposite of what we said. They reversed the sequence of events in our life, the voice-over suggested we were motivated by the "Nashville statement", and so forth. It was total horror to watch.
We took legal actions to have it removed from playback TV, in which we eventually succeeded, but the damage was already done.
So a personal tragedy for us, but to us it also revealed the inner workings of (some of the) mass media. Their actual (hidden) intentions were to create a picture of christians strugling against sin, supressing sexual feelings and living in missery. The fact that non of this applied to us, didn't matter at all. They obviously had their own agenda, which was to affirm prejudices and our (real) story didn't fit in.
A successful MOM, based on sound principles and love, seems to be threatening to their purposes.

For me, I try not to seek out information.  Because my spouse is more than a statistic.  My spouse is my partner.  As long as we maintain our expectations and healthy communication, I feel better.  Also, we have a healthy sex life.  Btw, that stat says people reporting.  I know my spouse, and he does not put his identifying sexuality on forms.  What does he suggest when you tell him our anxieties?  Do you have something that makes you feel more connected to alleviate your fears?

It’s been about a month and a half since I posted this. I’ve come along way in this time. 3 of 4 of the series we’re watching have gay relationships. It doesn’t bother me nearly as much as it did six weeks ago. Would I prefer television without the scenes? Sure, but honestly I’d prefer less sex scenes in general. I just don’t find most necessary to the stories.