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This was a very illuminating podcast - I wouldn’t have listened at first thinking my GIDH was not asexual - but it has some common threads of experience and emotion that really resonate. Definitely worth a listen!!!
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I also appreciated it. We also didn't have sex on our honeymoon, or for six months after that. What resonated with me was when she confronted him, he would have no idea how long it had been since their last time. Once we did start having sex, I'd say...'it's been three weeks' and she would always ask me why I was keeping count and couldn't just let things progress naturally (which didn't progress very far...).
Asexuality, though, seems to deal only with sexuality and leave romance to the side. My experience with TGT is that my wife felt a desire to live with me and be married, but the intimacy was always off and strange. When she started to come out, she felt sexually attracted to women, but still romantically attracted to men. She could identify them as cute and desirable. But she didn't desire them sexually (beyond maybe a kiss). Given the consequences of recognizing her attraction to women, they stayed just at the surface and her desire for the status quo was a long time strong competitor for her honest sexual desires.