Theresa do you think a TG spouse can be sexually and emotionally committed to their spouse, monogamous physically and mentally?
Based on my experience, my view is definitely not.

I would welcome your view

Allison,
He/she introduced himself as a transgendered partner. I think that is the reason why this member signs as Theresa TG.

I am new at this whole TG thing, this TGT and all these bs labels. If you have dragged another human being into a closet without their awareness it is a CRIME. I have absolutely NO sensitivity to you.  40 years i have been walking around on egg shells and trying to figure out wtf is wrong with me. To find out ten days ago by accident i am with a who knows what he thinks he is or wants to be in a human man body. OUTRAGED barely covers it. Do u know how many times this fucker hospitalized me.?  It is not me it has never been me. Why should i be sensitive to someone who is transitioning from one sex to another??? they are in the wrong place, the wrong support group. REALLY? is this the place gender transitioning lying time thieves go to feel better?  I came here to get the fuck away from them. CRUEL SELFISH Narsacisstic gay men who want to be ugly women. PRICELESS!!!  

First triggers first.  No one "transitions" from one sex (M--XY chromosomes) to another (F--XX chromosomes).  Sex is not changeable.  I don't care what the "common usage" is.  That usage developed out of a trans-supporting industry.

 Second: I am utterly and completely uninterested in helping a man with gender dysphoria who has chosen to treat that dysphoria by beginning to live as if he were a woman "navigate the future" with his spouse, which necessarily requires her to remake her own sexuality in order to fit her husband's newly declared sexual identity.  There are many forums out there for that already: My Husband Betty (Helen Boyd), etc. 

 Third: If his wife wants to come here to talk about her own situation, *she's* welcome, as far as I'm concerned.

  Fourth, and last: And these will be my only words directed to "Theresa":  if you want to be ethical, divorce your wife and free her to be her own authentic self rather than feeling entitled to her care and help and partnership, and asking her to remake herself and her sexuality and redefine her life by your dysphoric embrace of the idea you can be a woman. Any man who loves his wife doesn't put her through the agony of living with a man who is attempting to live as if he were a woman.  She didn't sign up for it; she didn't ask for it; she doesn't want it.  If you want to have "peace" with your decision, go find it with a therapist, and don't come here asking those of us partnered to the likes of you to absolve you and give you peace.
 
   
  
 

Last edited by OutofHisCloset (September 29, 2017 6:59 am)

While I don't think Theresa's intentions were to disrupt or trigger anyone, it is clear that this was the result.  I have removed the user's account. 

The SSN is designed to support the straight spouse.  While this forum will not make a blanket rule to restrict membership to only straight spouses, if the presence of a LGBT person causes pain to the straight spouses who are the focus of the forum we will respectfully remove them from the forum. 

Apologies if my welcome message to Theresa offended anyone.  I try to be welcoming to everyone in hopes of constructive conversations, but based on the responses here in this thread and some messages I received, I can see that it wasn't the best for our group at this time.