Gloria wrote:

....... Oh and one more thing-after six years of intercourse he cannot keep an erection so I have to perform oral sex on him. This has been going on since 2017....... 

 

Who is it that says you have to perform oral sex on him to get him hard? 

Elle

 

Gloria wrote:

I am having trouble getting around website. I posted something June 27 and saw 20 replies but when I clicked on replies, I could not click on it. I do want to answer Ellexoh -We try intercourse now and then but he cannot retain an erection. He says it gets more  difficult with age. He is 76 and was 66 when we met. He has always needed viagra.About three years ago, we discovered that this worked. I have found out so many other things about him the last six weeks or so so I wondered if this is a sign. If he's gay, maybe he couldn't handle intercourse anymore and this is more natural. So glad that I found this support group. I am disappointed, hurt, and humilated.

 

The reason I asked you "who says you have to give him oral sex to get hard?" is because throughout my time in the Forum it's become clear to me that whilst a straightspouse is confused, humiliated, left wanting...we still endeavor to make our r'ships better, to understand our partners...while they can still be carrying on in secret with same-sex dalliances, and very capable of living 2 separate existances. Having their cake AND eating it

I found all the sex in the world didn't stop the disappointment I felt when I wasn't getting my emotional needs met by the man who's supposed to know me. 

Elle
 

I meant that it was this June 6th. That young man moved out and was terrified. I thought it was a father/son relationship. Had talk with my partner. Said he had never had sex with a man and does not want to but I know better. It hurts me than I can imagine. I have trouble sleeping if I'm not with him.

I shivered when I read that this man took a 17 year old boy to his vacation home.  I don't know what the legal age of consent is, but if he had sex with this boy, he could be facing rape charges.  

A few years ago, he and a friend went to a costume shop after Halloween and he bought a red women's wig. He later showed me a picture of him in a dress with the wig on. He wanted to wear the wig and dress to a party but I talked him out of wearing the dress. Young man that he made advances to told me that he often puts the wig on. He put it on and ran across the street one day to talk to someone he knew at a public place. All of these years, I thought that he was eccentric. He may start singing in another language when we are in public. All of his male friends seem to understand it. I see so many signs now after joining this support group.  Love of opera and classical music-maybe   I told him a few years ago that I could not understand bi sexual people. I think you have to be one way or another. He said he thinks everyone is born bi sexual . Told me he had a friend that stopped having sex with woman and switched to men because they were less trouble. He was really into the movie about the gay cowboys. His attempts at intercourse seemed clumsy at first. Kisses me closed mouth or not at all. Asked me to rub his nipples a few times. I personally thought it was odd that he and his deceased wife did not have  intercourse the two years they dated before marriage.They met the year after the summer of love.