SS79 I’m sorry your are facing so much at once and understand how you feel, especially not wanting help from the person they became. 2014 was a year for me like you describe. I’ve concluded that even under the most amicable circumstances divorce/separation is a 30-40% hit on parenting workload without all THE emotional overhead of the straight spouse mindwarping experience. I gave up my volunteer work and still haven’t resumed it yet to keep the load light.

The folks here get it and support you.

Wishing you continued strength during this exhausting season of life,

ADSJ

Hi SS,
TGT is so draining!  It's a trauma, and after the initial shock wore off, I remember being so tired. I felt like I was going through the death of someone very close to me.   It's natural to grieve, feel down, and worn down.  I also went through some pretty significant anxiety for awhile.  It's a lot to process and figure out.  Then, there's all the complex things that you have to deal with in daily life as a result, like telling or not telling.  People not really understanding even if they mean well.  And, all the work it takes to move on with life.  But, it does get better with time!  

I had to allow myself to feel and take a time out when needed and not allow myself to feel guilty for needing to care for myself.  It also helped me to think about what all I was grateful for and reminding myself that I won't always feel that way.

I hope you can lighten your load for awhile, maybe take time off from your positions at the charity and campaign?  Everyone at certain points in life needs to care for themselves so they can continue to give to others.  But, I understand that's easier said then done. 

Like Rob mentioned, be kind to yourself and find time for yourself!  I remember not having any interest in things I used to like, I was very depressed, but if I made myself do those things, by the end of it, I was glad I did.  Eventually, it helped me detach from what was going on at home.