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yeah, I'm sorry Trance, to be initiating sex with you and at the same time to be telling her girlfriend how bored she is etc etc is a bit disturbing isn't it.
Mine initiated in the early days but in mid life it stopped. This is a common scenario - I think it's because of that instinctive wish to have children. I was very relieved when it stopped, emotionally it had got to a point it was hurting me, I cried the last time and that became his excuse to stop altogether - it wasn't loving sex it was a performance for him and he had become tired of it.
There's been a few people who have been here and described partners who initiate sex a lot past mid life - but again, where's the affection - it's with both sexes and disregard for all.
with so little sleep you are in serious need of it and will need to make getting a night's sleep a priority. Can I suggest a visit to the doctor, it might help a lot.
all the best, Lily
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Trance, I'm sorry this is happening to you. I found out through an FB posting by my then H. He included me by mistake i believe. He was terrible at tech. I confronted and he gaslighted me-- he never posted this, I'm mistaken, etc.
My xH had a lot to lose if I left him. I was the breadwinner and an honest, stable beard.
Perhaps your partner will suffer financially if you guys break up. That's a big incentive to fake attraction and interest in you. IMO, she's playing games with you. Her statements aren't logical when you put them together.
I have seen women who I thought were beautiful and wanted to copy their hairstyles and clothing. I never once wanted to have sex with them. Tasting women sounds very unappealing to me a straight woman
Take care of yourself and do what is best for you in this situation. Don't be sold something that isn't real.