It has been about a week since my wife moved out. She told me she wanted to be with women and a divorce about 2 months ago and life has turned upside down since then. Our split is amicable in most ways but I'm so hurt and feel angry a lot. It was a nightmare going through the holidays with her living here and the kids not knowing. She met someone and began dating about two weeks after telling me.  I begged her not to actually date someone else until we were separated and she talked like she cared, but would go out with this new girl every chance she had. Now she is living in an apartment while the divorce is processed and I still feel like I haven't wrapped my mind around everything. I knew she liked girls as well, she was dating one when we first met 10 years ago. So in some ways I'm not as surprised as other posters I've seen here. But I thought we had a good life and I was a good husband and father. And I can't understand throwing that away.

My kids generally prefer their mother as I was more of the disciplinarian, and it hurts how much they want to see her and all I can say are the "we both still love you and nothing will change that" type statements. I hate that I was put in this position and now get to see my children half the time, and have to see their sad faces and know there is nothing I can do but act like this was mutual.

I'm not eloquent and am not sure what I hope to intend by posting, other than contribute my story to a board full of others stories I've read and hope that maybe someone else feels less alone by seeing my situation.  I'm aware there is hope at the end, I just wish I could feel that way.