Ah yes.  Image protection.  It is early days (4 months from Dday and having him move out after 30 years of cheating with a man) and I have learned that he is saying I am "depressed from having to move away from my friends and family." and I "won't agree to go to marriage counseling so the marriage can't be fixed."  I suspect there is worse, but those are the ones that have gotten back to me so far.

Yeah, GIDs do that.

About 6 months after divorcing her, my ex brother in law chastised my not sharing 2 small family inheritances with her as principle reason she finally had to leave me (for those younger women she was having great sex with! -- and I filed the divorce!)

I calmly rebutted that I’d used those SEPARATE FUNDS to pay for family vacations, her new car, our son’s tuition & house down pmt, retirement savings, etc. 

I closed with, “I decided to maintain separate accounts 10+ years ago, when she was f---ing somebody while we were in counseling and one day coyly asked, ‘Where do you keep your money?’ 

These self-serving liars take no responsibilities and describe an alternate universe.
 
Expect it.  Ignore it.  Move on to "Meh".  http://www.chumplady.com/2016/08/dear-chump-lady-lost-moral-high-ground-told-people-wife-cheating/ 

- John

Yep, according to my in-denial gay ex-husband, I left him for another man.  
I was also the one who never wanted to have sex because I was depressed.  
I'm also a bad Christian woman for not letting my husband lead.  I have a Jezebel spirit.
I had sex with too many men before we got married.
Every guy watches gay porn and is curious about being with other men.
He's "straight with an attraction to men"
He was willing to have se with me so there should be no problem
It was none of my business what he fantasized about.
He wasn't attracted to those men, just re-enacting childhood trauma.

And the classic: "I was drunk and didn't go through with it"

Some of my favorites from my GID ex...

"All men look at gay porn, they just don't admit it"".
It's not a big deal, I can stop at any time".
"I didn't know it bothered you" (did the first two times I cried not give you a hint)?
"The dildo was for you"
"Those naked pics were for you"
"I thought you'd like this red G-string I ordered for myself"....Yes, clearly I love that we now get gay men's underwear catalogs in our mailbox.

The one quote that I now live by when I figure out someone is a manipulator is this quote from my ex boyfriend that I dated in my 20s.  He used to say this about his loser brother:  believe half of what you see and none of what you hear.

Yes, sometimes even what you see is a lie because they are crafting things to fit the creation that is their life.  My ex started planting websites for me to find about how some wives like to use dildos on their husbands and it's perfectly normal for men to want something up their rear.  This was shortly after I found a dildo and he tried to convince me it was for me.  And then he would delete all the gay porn he had viewed before and after the video he planted.  Except for when he forgot.  Ridiculous. 

"I only started dating her when you started dating someone else. She had nothing to do with it even though she was living with me since the day I left you"