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There are some very interesting articles here on the subject
“The future is unwritten.”
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- MrsPiper
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I love reading everyone's post. Kel I relate too as well as Melissa...and Steve your last post made me laugh so hard the "Bachelor" you are very witty and sounds like you are very happy 
obviously all of us have been hurt or crushed on these various subjects on some level and these forums help ease the searing pain so does the humor. I'm a terrible writer Lol. Again thanks for all of yawls' post
- Steve
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Thanks Mrs Piper. Yes I'm in a vastly different place to where I was 13 years ago. I'm not sure that one ever completely gets over such a trauma but yeah... I'm in a happy place.
After TGT I had a 7 year relationship with another lady but it also didn't work out. Nothing to do with TGT ... just 'stuff'.
Anyway... Believe it or not I'm back dating a girl I dated when I was 17yo. We are school friends (met when we were 15) and were each other's first ever boyfriend and girlfriend. Here we are 35 years later back together.
Weird huh?!?
You have a future. A good one. It begins as a flicker of hope. Nurture it until it becomes a dream and when you are strong enough you will make it a reality. NEVER give up.
- Rob
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Steve...
That is weird. Question, does that mean you trust this girl more since you knew her from your teens?
As you can imagine I have major trust issues. Meeting someone isn't on my priority list right now but I worry. My lezexs betrayal was so sudden and she was so cruel..I have never experienced such evil. Can anyone turn on you like that? I really don't have much faith in humanity at the moment. Where arethe authentic people? Where are the true hearted?
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7
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Rob... I too was completely blindsided by my ex-wife. Betrayed by someone who I loved and trusted completely. It drove me into deep shock and a depression that I only just survived. But I still had many great women in my life... my mum, my grandmothers (both of whom had passed away by then) and my sisters to name just a few. I had a very strong sense that what my ex did was not typical of women so no...I didn't lose my ability to trust.
When people are betrayed like we have been there are some things that will be taken from us. Our marriage, our house, our kids, our money, our 'stuff', the future we imagined we would have. Losing some things is unavoidable. But there's other things that we don't HAVE to lose unless we choose to give them up. Trust is one. Faith is another. The ability to love. The desire to be loved.
I often ask people this question... How much are you going to let them take?? How much power are you going to let them have over your life?? Haven't they taken enough already... are you really going to let them take it all??
Don't let her take it all Rob.
You have a future. A good one. It begins as a flicker of hope. Nurture it until it becomes a dream and when you are strong enough you will make it a reality. NEVER give up.
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Ooooooo, Steve - that's SO good; "How much are you going to let them take?". Powerful stuff!
-Kel
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It seems already taken guys sorry...
I hear you about me letting her take it and me letting this and that. She didn't take my god and she didn't make me mean and bitter like her. She didn't take who I am.
But she is still screaming at me in my head. The PTSD ..still waiting for the irate text. The curses.
All alone I have safety and solace. For now that will have to do. I know in my bones it she was not normal and there are normal people out there.
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7
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And she didn't take your honesty, integrity and compassion, that's obvious. And I don't think she took your hope either. I know you are going to be ok Rob when the dust settles and your heart and mind rest and recover.
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Mate... Just being away from her is a HUGE step forward. I had to move out too before the downward spiral stopped and the healing could begin.
You have a future. A good one. It begins as a flicker of hope. Nurture it until it becomes a dream and when you are strong enough you will make it a reality. NEVER give up.
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Porn is the gateway "drug." I first found the porn including gay porn in October 2016. Fast forward to now and so many lies have unfolded. He tested positive for HIV on June 15. What do I do now?