"permanent hair color" I meant

Abby-  "like a dramatically different haircut or permanent hair colourt. No tattoos or piercings either". 

​Ha ha- you been mind reading lol. Was thinking about another tattoo.

Last edited by greyhound gal (March 26, 2018 9:59 am)

Hi, 

In a similar boat here.  It is hard to talk about isn't it?   Mine is moving out.  Change can help you or just something new.  It is all so insane isn't it?  Like so insane.  I was 18 years together.  Going through the divorce and so on.   All I can say is be strong and tell your story to those that are close to you, or to those that need to hear it.  Who cares what others think?  Nothing you could have done in a million years.  Life goes on.  It has to doesn't it.  It sure is hard at times.   That emotional roller coaster is unreal.  I am a man and we are taught to hold things in and to be a rock.  Well this rock melts often and is so hurt.  Trying to be strong for myself and my kids.  She wants to come over to see my sick son.  Well.  No.  It is my week.  If he wants her then I will say yes.  I will continue to be a nice person, but I will be hurt for such a long time.

hey greyhound gal,

Take a break and be kind to yourself.  You're doing ok.   His moving out is not something that you created.

I recall looking around at all the stuff in the house and realizing its all gone..that it is all just stuff.  I would give any of it for the person I knew back.  I recall thinking the house, the stuff...none of it mattered. She made it all not matter.   A home is made up by the people in it.

  In the end she moved out leaving almost everything and taking the most annoying things like a dish or a pot.  She left all the children's pictures..conveying to me what was really important to her.
The day she left I recall feeling a sense of peace and safety.  Like a load being lifted off me.  Of course, then, there was a sadness and crying...   but if we did not feel sad at such a loss we would not be normal..that makes us who we are..capable of true absolute love.

It will be over soon for you and after he is out you will start to see things more clearly..  for me I could see how messed up my life really had been; how much unnecessary drama and stress I put up with.  My home is a calm and safe place now..free from drama, anger and hurt.   I will always love my GX  but if you put a gun to my head now I would not take her back.






 

I’m glad you have your dog, mine have been my biggest comfort through everything.

It will get better, I’m glad for you that he’s gone.