Wife came out about 4 months ago.  It took me this long to realize that all of the things I've been reading on these posts also apply to my situation.  I never thought that she would lie, cheat, and be so selfish in her behavior.  I finally got fed up and got mad and let her know exactly how I feel now, I just want her gone.  Up until recently I still felt like I was married and still acted like it even though she had already moved on. Now I am done with her and would not take her back now even if she realized it was all a mistake (she hints that she is still "confused").  She knows, and has admitted, that her behavior is unacceptable and has put her own needs above everyone around her.  However, it seems like she just can't help it at this point and I don't think it will stop.  I only ever asked one thing, please don't date until you move out, I just can't watch that. I can't stay at home with the kids while you are out with someone else.  I didn't think that was asking too much.  Of course, she has put little effort into actually leaving the house and doesn't want to wait to start dating.  She said that it has already been 4 months and she "needs" to be able to explore.  It has also been 4 months for me too and I have done nothing to hurt her at all, I had only supported her at my own expense.  She thought she could have a perfect outcome where she comes out, everyone supports her (how brave she is for coming out), we are still best friends and we all have a happy ending.  But, all she does is hurt me, even if unintentionally.  So, I am finally fed up.  I feel naive. I didn't think all of the things you all have posted in this forum applied to me, boy I was wrong.