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Support » Tell me I am dreaming,,,? » November 11, 2020 12:59 pm

JJ1966
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Things, are things. I couldn't win. I am alone, with no one but myself to blame.

General Discussion » Why do our GID wives (or husbands) refuse to come out? » November 11, 2020 12:44 pm

JJ1966
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I think it's laziness, they get used to being taken care of, and we don't have the ability to leave. So we stay, they stay.....and pray that the last breath we draw is sooner rather than later.

Support » Foolme » March 24, 2017 9:33 am

JJ1966
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Please forgive me for not posting earlier, I have been on a serious roller coaster ride for the last 8 months. I just read your story and I have to say you have handled the situation very well. I too, am dealing with the issue of grown children, but this thread is for you. I wanted to tell you that you have spent 30 years raising your children with love, no matter what, love will win. Even your daughter who has "sided" with him knows that no matter what you will not abandon her. I hope I am wrong, but in time, he will. You have done the most amazing thing, you have raised three children who KNOW without question that they are loved.

General Discussion » Back and Forth, about to make myself crazy..........er » March 24, 2017 9:11 am

JJ1966
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Foolme and Maresyd, thank you...it feels pretty good. Rob, I think you're right. I can't imagine right now what it will be like to have no drama or the constant tension, but I am looking forward to finding out. Although I have to tell you all, the look on his face when I told him about the plane ticket? It was ......PRICELESS.....!!! A cross somewhere between shock and "oh s#$t". He can't believe I did it, he wants to know how I could spend all that money without telling him. REALLY?????????? It was all I could do not to laugh in his face. But it's Friday and the sun is out, it is supposed to be 70 degrees here. I will spend my day trying to "chase joy".

General Discussion » Back and Forth, about to make myself crazy..........er » March 23, 2017 9:44 am

JJ1966
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Hi, all......just checking in.
Update: I delayed my car payment for two months, I will be able to buy his plane ticket next month and if he doesn't use it, I will. So just hang in there with me, hopefully he will take his crazy with him. Then I can begin the real work. It's like popping a blister, everything has to drain away before you can apply the neo-sporen.

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » March 23, 2017 9:16 am

JJ1966
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Stonehouse,

I truly don't mean to sound offensive, I have had the same experience as you have in one respect. When I married my husband I was a size 4 (leaning towards a 2), anyway after we married it seems like he did whatever he could to derail my healthy lifestyle.

I have always had health issues to start with, so I controlled them with diet, workouts and a minimum of medication. He would tell me how much he loved my self discipline, until we got married. Then he would complain that I could eat .....pick a sugary treat...just this once. It wouldn't hurt me to miss a workout...etc. etc. Up to and including that I must be trying to attract men I work with, until I finally quit. Then he began to complain that I let myself go and became a "big" girl and he was not interested anymore because of it.

Of course, this was followed by my discovery of the truth about him. Anyway, after looking around the internet, I began to wonder if this is just another way that gid (male or female) try and make us feel like everything is our fault, therefore they feel justified in lying and cheating because we "let" ourselves get out of shape or become boring or whatever the excuse they can find. What do you think? I know how much what he said hurt you, I have been there and I am sorry for your pain.

General Discussion » Deleted » March 22, 2017 8:13 am

JJ1966
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JK

Glad to see you made it thru the rain, the sun is shining outside here, I hope you get to be out in it.

General Discussion » Deleted » March 21, 2017 7:08 am

JJ1966
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I'm praying for you, if it gets to be too much in the courtroom, think of us.....we will all be there with you in spirit.

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » March 21, 2017 7:06 am

JJ1966
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Sean,

This leads me to a very interesting observation and question. I have noticed lately that my gid husband acts like even though I have been upfront in telling him I won't be going out with him in may, I am going out with him in May? What gives? He admits I have told him that, but still carries on like I will do as I am told, like a good little girl. (yeah, sure.....I am) So the question is....does this commonly happen?

General Discussion » Deleted » March 20, 2017 8:38 pm

JJ1966
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JK,

His crazy.....not yours. BIG virtual hug from me.

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