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Support » Physical pain after being betrayed? Anyone? » July 4, 2024 5:46 am

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Look up somatic psychotherapy and nervous system regulation.

Is He/She Gay » What's up with the preparation H? » February 3, 2024 10:47 am

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That's so weird you say that mjm017 because my gay boyfriend also has chronic diarrhea.  He's not dirty but i thought that him going to bathroom (diarrhea) that many times in a day was abnormal but he seems to think it isn't. I'm like i never met anyone who shits that much in one day. What is Shigellosis?

Strategies for MOM's » New to all this » December 24, 2023 10:14 am

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I have a question for SusanneH. If you feel comfortable answering that is.
You said "He decided to quit seeing men after I found out because he wants our marriage to work," But he's been having sex with men since his teens. If he's been doing this his whole life and that's who he is, how is he just going to stop? From my understanding hell just hide it better then he was. If he was bisexual he would have been cheating with men and women but its been men your whole relationship. If he's gay which at this point labels don't matter actions do but how is he going to change who he is and just stop?

General Discussion » Substance Abuse » December 22, 2023 7:58 am

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I work in the substance use field as well as my boyfriend who is bi is now sober. There's alot of men that use substances to hide who they are.

General Discussion » Are any men/people truly 100% straight? » December 15, 2023 9:51 am

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Steve wrote "So if I watch an orgy in porn I’ve actually been in an orgy?

Interesting

Unfortunately if a straight woman on here admitted she had an occasional lesbian fantasy she’d be told she wasn’t straight. I know how it works.

It entirely depends on what you believe it means to be ‘straight’. If being ‘straight’ means that a bisexual or lesbian thought has never dared enter your head then yes... you are correct. That’s how ‘straight’ women think."


I agree with you Steve 💯 percent. I am a straight woman.i have no attraction in "real life" to women. Do i think she's pretty yes but i don't want an emotional, romantic, or sexual relationship with her "in real life" do i watch lesbian porn? Hell yes i do. I'm 37 and i watch both lesbian and straight porn. I've only been in relationships with men and i only ever want to be in a relationship with a man. I am not attracted to women other than fantasy. I've had many opportunities to mess around with women even when under the influence and i haven't. I agree that a fantasy is just that a fantasy. I don't know how men work in that regards but everyone on here says if a man watches gay porn he's not straight. I don't know how men and women are different that way and if a man watches gay porn it seems to be a pattern that they are gay in denial. Idk but i do know what i am and that's straight. I even have tried to imagine myself in a relationship with a woman and i can't. Its just not for me.. so am i bi lol i don't think so and I'm saying I'm not.

Thanks 4 your perspective Steve. Its appreciated!


Women fall in love by what they hear. Men fall in love by what they see.

General Discussion » Betrayal Trauma » December 10, 2023 9:51 am

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Can't read as i don't have a subscription with new York times.  Do you have a pdf of this?

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » December 8, 2023 4:31 pm

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Sean,
Hey hope all is well and your ready for the holidays. I have a question. Lol...Do men pay for sex on grindr and others apps? Or is it just circumstantial?  Also why does Joe kort say some men can have sex with men and not be gay? You may have covered this before so sorry if you have to repeat answer.

Thank you

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » November 14, 2023 6:34 am

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I'm just trying to understand what's happened to me and all the weird unexplained things. As I've said this relationship has been over 4 the last 6 months and I'm not sleeping with him nor do i want to. Just need some insight.

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » November 13, 2023 4:01 pm

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Hey Diff I guess and Sean,
I'm recognizing that just like you said Sean there is no point in asking anymore questions. He lies and denies and isn't capable of telling the truth because he believes his own lies. Friday night for instance, at 1am I heard my back door shut (like somebody was outside and coming back in) and heard him in the kitchen making food. Mind you I feel asleep at 1030-11. I look up and the tv and the screensaver for Netflix is on. So the tv screen is black which takes app 30 minutes to happen. I know I tested it. I feel his side of the bed and it's cold like someone hasn't been there for awhile. I look down and his phone isn't on the charger. He comes into bed and I go where were you. He says I was making food and watching Netflix. I said the tv is off and has been for awhile. He said no it hasn't. The next day I ask him, "where did you go last night?" He says real defensively, "I didn't leave the house and would never do that. You have no reason to believe that I left the house because it didn't happen. I was in the bathroom jacking off then I made food. Your imagining the door shutting because I didn't hear it." Just like Sean says he changes his lies day after day and I wasn't asking him if he left the house. I asked him where did you go meaning out of the bedroom but he kind of told on himself. I think? What do you think? What could he be doing sneaking out at 1am and I've felt like he's done this before. 
Another thing is he never touches me when we sleep. This has been going on since day one. He won't wrap his arm around me. Won't even lay a hand on me and I've never experienced this in a relationship before. He says it's because he can't sleep like that and it's uncomfortable but can hold a pillow. This is one of the main reasons I don't trust him. His words don't match his actions. You say you miss me and love me but won't touch me while we sleep? Has anyone experienced this with their spouse before?  Sean is right he's [b]gay, gay, gay

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » November 6, 2023 4:38 pm

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Diff I guess,
You were extremely helpful and really explained everything thoroughly and easy to understand so thank you. Here is a conversation me and my boyfriend had today. If you can, can you please help me understand this better? I think I asked him the write questions, but I'd like some insight? I tried to private message you but this message was too long. Sean if you would like to comment and give some insight as well I'd appreciate it. I'm really getting to the end of this and don't even have any negative emotions towards this relationship. We haven't had sex in 6 months and I'm starting to see this relationship for what it is.
Me 
Well, my concern has been past things you've done that make me feel like I can't trust you. I realize it isn't a deficiency on my part and I just don't have the right parts. I don't take that personal, but I do worry it wouldn't be enough in the future or if you miss that part of your life that would make there be problems within our relationship. Obviously past things that you seem to be in denial about but I'm over talking about it through text.
Him
As far as the whole wrong parts statement though, you're completely mistaken. I'm sure everyone's bisexuality is different but I far prefer actual women n have been with 10x as many actual women and I'm only interested in sex with someone I'm in a relationship with n have no desire to be in a relationship with a trans girl. And to be honest, I have absolutely zero attraction to men, which idk if u believe that even though I know it to be true. I think if you would believe that then a lot more things from past wouldn't be an issue.

Me
Saying u have no attraction to men is the denial I'm talking about. You may be emotionally attracted to women but sexually attracted to men and women. A transexual is a man. Either way your saying, I don't like men but I was on grindr which is a gay app for men who want sex with other men (I sound like Sean lol been reading all of this thread), you've l

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