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Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » April 24, 2017 1:35 pm

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Lisa4kids wrote:

Nutmeg0516 wrote:

Hi Sean! I have a question-how did you people in your situation perform with their wives sexually? Sorry if that's too personal-I am only wondering because that's what threw me I guess. If he didn't seem to enjoy it sometimes or finish I think I would have been more suspicious

See now, mine just closed his eyes and hurried up. I could have been a blow up doll for all he cared.  There wasn't any intimacy or sensual moments.  I could see how it would be even more confusing if the sex was good.  My husband even acknowledges that the sex wasn't good but he blames me for it.  Hahahaha.  Funny thing is, I never had any complaints before him.

 
HA! I wouldn't say the sex was good. It was in the beginning then got pretty routine.

Support » A love story turned nightmare » April 24, 2017 1:10 pm

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That's completely true. That's why I will be nervous to date again. I don't want to end up in the same boat or worse.

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » April 24, 2017 11:34 am

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Hi Sean! I have a question-how did you people in your situation perform with their wives sexually? Sorry if that's too personal-I am only wondering because that's what threw me I guess. If he didn't seem to enjoy it sometimes or finish I think I would have been more suspicious

Our Stories » Meg » April 24, 2017 10:28 am

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I just had the baby we tried for two years to have 5 months ago. This is truly heartbreaking-I have kept this to myself for the past 9 months. I have recently moved in with my mother (with my two kids). I feel the marrige is over, yet he swears he is straight and wants it to work. I Am starting therapy this week and am looking for more input if there is any because my head is just so clouded. I have been with my husband for 4 years, married a little over a year. I was a single (divorced) mom and he was as a single dad. We got along great and he helped me a lot with my 9 year old son. The sex was awesome in the beginning. I ended up getting pregnant about 4 months in by accident. He moved in and didn't have a full time job but was always loooking for one. I lost the baby and was devastated. We tried for two years (had no doubt he was the one because he acted that way/said it) to get pregnant. Sex after the first 5 months was ALWAYS me initiating. I love sex and I loved it with him. I would be happy with sex every day-I'm never too tired to have sex or give head-just the way I am. Sex came less and less-he was tired/in pain/not feeling well. When we had it it was fine, but not very passionate. I thought it was because I was putting a lot of pressure on him for the baby, so I tried to make it fun. He would still rather fight about having sex than just fucking me. I cried so many times next to him while he was mad at me for wanting sex when his back hurt. He was on antidepressants and Vicodin for his back. When I went to a fertility specialist after a year of no luck-I tested normal. I asked her about the Vicodin and she said it can cause low libido and lower his sperm count. He got off the Vicodin and I was pregnant right away. I really didn't think anything was going on with anyone else because he was just so loving and great with my son as well as his. Last May when I was 4 months pregnant I asked to use his phone and he had no problem giving it to me because mine di

Is He/She Gay » Is my husband gay? Cheated on me A LOT » April 23, 2017 4:05 pm

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Thank you very much for your response. You are absolutely right-he has not seemed legit interested in sex with me since the very beginning of the relationship. I have been in shock and still processing it for 9months. I found out when I was 4 months pregnant and tried my best to push it aside and not deal with it because I would get too upset then I would worry about the baby. He did try the love bimb thing when I first found out. But that has faded over the last 9 months because I have been rather unresponsive to it. I don't believe a word out of his mouth anymore-because how could someone do this to a friend never mind someone they were supposedly in love with. April first I moved in with my mom, him with his and he went away for two weeks to intense PTSD therapy. Since April first he has been nothing but cold and horrible to me. He takes our daughter Saturday and Sunday while I work. We see each other at pick oil and drop off only. He says "bye I love you" says he wants it to work but doesn't put in any effort other than that-a huge change from when I first found out. I wanted the separation so that I could sort my feelings out and he can focus on his therapy. I have decided that I will be filing for divorce. There is no fixing this. I can't trust him, he doesn't respect me and I will not stay in a sexless marriage-that part matters too much for me. I know some people could-and if it was a serious health issue that would be different. I wish I knew about this group when I found out-I have been dealing with this in my own for too long. I start therapy this week. Thank you again!

General Discussion » What part hurts the most? Is it different between men/women? » April 23, 2017 12:25 pm

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Hi Pheonix,

     I found out 9 months ago-and had a baby 5 months ago. I just moved out 3 weeks ago. There is a lot to post (just made a post about my husband meeting men and transgender women). I am probably an exception to what your theory is. I have kept everything to myself and have recently moved out and have told a few close friends. The emotional support has been amazing. Our relashonship has turned so awful because I decided to stay because of the baby, lease etc. for me, the hardest thing to get over is the sex part of it. For me, that is one of the biggest ways I feel and show love. I'm the beginning it was great and pretty quickly died down. I was ALWAYS sexually frustrated but I loved him so much so I believed him when he said he just didn't have a high libido due to Vicodin. I was always crying and feeling rejected. Now, I know that I am a mess and trying to move on with my life, but I now still have no partner when he has so many. It's like he took every part of me and then said he didn't want it. But the feeling rejected and denied a basic human need (that I apparently still won't be getting any time soon) is what I think has caused me the most pain. Finding out what he was doing felt horrible, but at this point at least it is somewhat of an explanation. I am very sorry for what you went through as well.

Is He/She Gay » Is my husband gay? Cheated on me A LOT » April 23, 2017 9:27 am

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I would like to add that he has met someone at least once a weeks the whole time we were together and I found tons more from before we were together. And there were a TON of times we had sex and he couldn't cum. Also doggy was his favorite.

Is He/She Gay » Is my husband gay? Cheated on me A LOT » April 23, 2017 9:25 am

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Hi- I am so sorry all of you are going through this. It is truly heartbreaking. I have kept this to myself for the past 9 months. I have recently moved in with my mother (with my two kids). I feel the marrige is over, yet he swears he is straight and wants it to work. I need some advice from people that have been here. I have been with my husband for 4 years, married a little over a year. I was a single (divorced) mom and he was as a single dad. We got along great and he helped me a lot with my 9 year old son. The sex was awesome in the beginning. I ended up getting pregnant about 4 months in by accident. He moved in and didn't have a full time job but was always loooking for one. I lost the baby and was devastated. We tried for two years (had no doubt he was the one because he acted that way/said it) to get pregnant. Sex after the first 5 months was ALWAYS me initiating. I love sex and I loved it with him. I would be happy with sex every day-I'm never too tired to have sex or give head-just the way I am. Sex came less and less-he was tired/in pain/not feeling well. When we had it it was fine, but not very passionate. I thought it was because I was putting a lot of pressure on him for the baby, so I tried to make it fun. He would still rather fight abiut having sex than fucking me. I cried so many times next to him while he was mad at me for wanting sex when his back hurt. He was on antidepressants and Vicodin for his back. When I went to a fertility specialist after a year of no luck-I tested normal. I asked her about the Vicodin and she said it can cause low libido and lower his speed count. He got off the Vicodin and I was pregnant right away. I really didn't think anything was going on with anyone else because he was just so loving and great with my son as well as his. Last May when I was 4 months pregnant I asked to use his phone and he had no problem giving it to me because mine died (probably forgetting that he didn't delete something). I opened safari on a c

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