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1 | Support » Need support » July 29, 2026 10:26 am |
- Rob
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Princessj1
"..The latest is development is that he would like to be able to have occasional )once monthly) interactions with men. That he will notify me when this happens .."
My opinion is that is a lot of stress and a anxiety to live with.
As if he is a god or supreme being and can dictate at any moment that the relationship and you are not enough. The anxiety can eat you up.
We should be enough..we should more than enough.
| Support » Wife of 18 years came out but won’t leave » July 21, 2026 11:04 am |
- Rob
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Yeah I had pity in the beginning but mainly hurt. As her abuse escalated it change to pure physical fear.
Their physical rejection can make you tremble and think that your garbage. But I was then called garbage..which then I knew was not true...if they are speaking they are lying. Im not sure who told them they were gods, demi-gods or supreme beings. In the end mine turned out to be just an abusive broken person.
| Support » Mind Boggling » July 20, 2026 12:58 pm |
- Rob
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SShere,
My no fault area resulted in us splitting everyrhing 50/50. There no point being to prove infidelity ..it would just made the already expensive divorce she dragged out more expensive.
Everything was split..mostly my retirement, the house , the kids.
She also inherited half the debt.
This is one of those times where the lawyers are wrong and only God sees the difference between wrong and right.at least in the next life we can say we kept all our vows and all our promises. Obeyed all the commandments.
Definitely get a lawyer now and fight for everything you can. In the dictionary these spouses should be listed under the definition of "evil".
| Support » Wife of 18 years came out but won’t leave » July 20, 2026 12:47 pm |
- Rob
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Notdefeated
I lived with my cheating GX for 2.5 years during the divorce..she had no money to leave and I certainly wasn't. I refer to it as my years of hell on earth.
Do you have a safe place in the house to sleep? I basically slept in the basement and continued paying all bills while she went out with her girlfriend every night. I went from shaking with trauma when she went out to please go out..
While there is no set time frame I urge you to build a support system for yourself...lawyer, therapist, psychiatrist, pastor.
It goes to show a home is made of the people that are in it and not the walls and structure.
Wishing stoic resolve and fierce courage on your journey.
| Support » Gay Wife » July 16, 2026 12:08 pm |
- Rob
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Strongheart
So sorry.
I strongly suggest you see a lawyer also. It helps to get clarity and support of where you stand and what you want. For example I read emails of my GX and her girlfriend looking for a large house for them and the kids..neither would have to work..both would live off the income of "their horrible ex husbands". That and she wanted me out of the house so she could say I abandoned the marriage and kids.
While one thinks ones spouse and friend would not do this to you it seems their newfound gaynesss trumps basic morality. Suddenly a lifelong friend and even the kids are no longer the most important thing in their life.
Im doing great now having rebuilt my life and thank God for getting me away from the horribleness of spouse that suddenly hated me.
When you have a pipe burst you call a plumber..when your spouse suddenly hates you and wants to leave you you call a lawyer.
| Support » Husband Hid HRT » July 14, 2026 8:59 am |
- Rob
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Duped86,
Your not alone. I think many od us on this board ...we were all lied to for years. These spouses hid a fundamental part of themselves from us.
Then they wonder what our problem is and why we feel so hurt. My GX tried to reframe my hurt by saying I was a horrible husband and she was the victim. She was in a way..she is a gay woman subjected to a heterosexual marriage.. the sheer arrogance and cruelty of me
.expecting her to behave like a straight woman..
Yes we may have been duped but we gave fierce true love. They gave..lies?..something less than true love... not sure what to call it but I wish they just had been true to themselves and not tried to be something they weren't.
Wishing you strength and courage on your journey
| Support » Gay Wife » July 13, 2026 6:03 pm |
- Rob
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I got this too..she was having a gay affair ..my letter read something like yours. ..basically I didnt take the garbage out etc..all justifies a gay affair.
| General Discussion » Limbo » July 9, 2026 2:04 pm |
- Rob
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He wants your support on his "journey". But who is supporting you? Not him.
Sorry but these spouses are the worst..we thwn need to go to therapy, the kids need therapy, the dog needs therapy...but not them.
Real reality is they are the source and cause of all the hurt and pain. That they can sleep with a clear conscious at night really says all we need to know.
Build your support system..because he is no longer support you.
| Support » I accept my husband is bi but I don't trust him. » July 6, 2026 9:22 am |
- Rob
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Twocrows,
Welcome.
It is a trauma and constant anxiety..is he texting a man about cars or is he flirting. Is hw meeting a friend for a beer or is it a date? Why should you have to wonder? Its the horrible thing about TGT.
We should not have to wonder or distrust...we should be enough..we should be more than enough.
| General Discussion » So lost and angry » July 1, 2026 3:45 am |
- Rob
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Coconut,
Have to say it..his not working but you feeling tied to him financially because of the house is not a reason to stay in the hurt and anxiety (who is he texting now?)..
My GX sat home not working but carrying on an affair in the house we built.
A home is made of the people that are in it. The house itself could be a trillion dollar mansion and it would provide no emotional safety from spouse that is hurting you.
Wishing you strength and courage on your journey through this.