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1 | Strategies for MOM's » New Subreddit for Straight Partners of Bisexuals » March 25, 2022 12:36 am |
- TangledOil
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Hi everyone! I hope you’re all doing well. I don’t get on here much anymore, but I wanted to let you all know we are still moderating the straight+bi partners subreddit on Reddit. We’re at nearly 1,200 members now. Hope to see you there.
Tangled
| Strategies for MOM's » New Subreddit for Straight Partners of Bisexuals » December 10, 2021 8:26 pm |
- TangledOil
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Hi TinktheChi,
We’re glad to have you there. Reach out if you need anything.
Tangled.
| Support » Do you feel like a victim? » December 2, 2021 4:04 pm |
- TangledOil
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I’ve never felt victimized by my husband coming out as bi. I felt sadness regarding what it all meant for us and I felt some trauma, but not victimized. I’m not sure how the two didn’t go hand in hand for me, but they didn’t. Maybe it helps that my husband and I have always had a strong foundation, even with and through his coming out.
| Support » He is bi and polyamorous » December 1, 2021 8:30 pm |
- TangledOil
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Hi Confused10,
I’m sorry you’re in the position you’re in. Some bisexual people feel a desire to have same sex experiences when they first come out. They may feel they’ve been hiding for so long and now they’re no longer hiding (or maybe he only recently had the realization) and they might be trying to embrace their bisexuality and live “authentically.” Living authentically means different things to different people. Polyamory has nothing to do with bisexuality. Most bisexual people can be happy and fulfilled in a committed monogamous relationship. My guess is he is throwing polyamory around to see if you’ll cave and agree to him having sex with others outside your marriage. You don’t have to agree to any such thing. None of this can be rushed. Your husband has had a lifetime to figure himself out. You’ve have a few weeks. He needs to give you a lot of time to come to terms with the new normal and what all of this means for your marriage.
I know this is rough. I went through something very similar two years ago and we’re doing great. We’re still married happily and monogamous.
I’d be happy to chat with you or you can find the link to a subreddit I moderate in the MOMs section.
Tangled
Edited… polyamory is very complicated. Nothing to take lightly. Usually polygamous people start out together as polyamorous. It’s exceptionally difficult to go from monogamous to poly, and it sounds like your husband is trying for “poly under duress.” Not cool. Don’t back down if you’re not okay with changes. Honestly, if he’s talking polyamory I’d wager he may have a person in mind already. Again, I’m sorry for all you’re going through but support is available.
| Strategies for MOM's » New Subreddit for Straight Partners of Bisexuals » November 25, 2021 2:13 pm |
- TangledOil
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Happy Thanksgiving everyone! I can’t believe our sub on Reddit is nearing 1,000 members in just over 8 months! If you’re in a MOM with a bi partner we’d love to see you there.
Tangled
| Strategies for MOM's » New Subreddit for Straight Partners of Bisexuals » October 21, 2021 5:09 pm |
- TangledOil
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Thank you Susanne. I’m glad to hear you’re benefiting from it. We have so many wonderful contributors in the sub. It has definitely surpassed what I could have imagined it could become.
Tangled
| Strategies for MOM's » New Subreddit for Straight Partners of Bisexuals » September 23, 2021 12:07 pm |
- TangledOil
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Update…
We are approaching 800 members now. I’m stunned. I knew the need was there, but I wasn’t sure we’d get off the ground like we did. I didn’t know if those in need would find us. We have such a fantastic group of people participating in the subreddit. I’m so glad we can be there for others and I still wish something like this subreddit was around when I was first looking for support.
Tangled
| General Discussion » Amazing changes coming to SSN » September 8, 2021 7:51 pm |
- TangledOil
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I haven’t been around much recently, but I’m wondering if the new site has a concrete launch date yet?
| Strategies for MOM's » New Subreddit for Straight Partners of Bisexuals » September 8, 2021 6:21 pm |
- TangledOil
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I’m so happy with our subreddit. We’re now at over 700 members and growing rapidly. Please join is for extra support for your straight + bi relationship/marriage.
| Strategies for MOM's » Celebrating our wedding anniversary… » September 8, 2021 6:09 pm |
- TangledOil
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CMaree23 wrote:Congrats! ❤ Happy belated anniversary!
Thank you!