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1 | General Discussion » First post. First time reaching out » February 14, 2024 3:16 pm |
- Clif
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My gay first ex-wife moved out also. I wanted her back desperately. It took months to come to the realization that, if I got her back, I would be looking over my shoulder, wondering when she was going to leave again, for the rest of that time. I decided that I did not want to live like that. I then closed my mind to any thought of reunion.
| General Discussion » 2023 » January 1, 2023 3:50 pm |
- Clif
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Just wanted to stop by and wish everyone a Happy New Years. Hope everyone has a better 2023 than 2022 was.
Be well,
Clif
| General Discussion » I Hate Him » November 26, 2022 5:57 am |
- Clif
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lily wrote:Yeah, that sucks Clif. You would think, at least now that she is married, she would no longer be entitled to your pension.
Nope. 12 years ago when the divorce happened, half of 27 years of pension left my account and went directly to one in her name. poof. All gone.
The law is wrong IMHO. Pension should only be shared with only who you retire with.
| General Discussion » I Hate Him » November 25, 2022 4:12 pm |
- Clif
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I didn't hate at first.Wanted back the illusion I had and hate didn't factor into that.
Now 12 years removed and wanting to retire I do hate.
All those years I spent working in trenches and up on ladders and steel, freezing temperatures and high heat,to earn a pension and to now have to share it with her and her wife as well as my wife is a gut punch.
I did what I was supposed to do. Go to work and earn it. She took half without batting an eye, like she earned it. She didn't.
Anger, hate, frustration. I have it all.
| General Discussion » Happy Thanksgiving » November 24, 2022 5:39 pm |
- Clif
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I hope you are all having the best thanksgiving you can have.There is hope down the road.
I believe that for all of us.
Be well.
Clif
| General Discussion » Hard realities » November 4, 2022 6:53 am |
| General Discussion » Hard realities » November 3, 2022 6:33 am |
- Clif
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I ran across a few quotes.They are painful but also true.
That thoughts seem very appropriate here.
"Some people will hurt you, and they won’t care how you feel about it."
"Nobody is coming to save you. You have to do it yourself."
"Just because you go out of your way for people, it doesn’t mean they will do the same for you."
Be well,
Clif
| General Discussion » My intro and looking for advice » October 31, 2022 5:38 am |
- Clif
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Blackie wrote: "I just wish she didnt spend 23 years with me and then decide to bail just when it was going to be the two of us...arguably the best part."
I had 27 years and there were a few years when it was just us. I do believe being "empty nesters" is what triggered her to come out. Kids were gone and living out of state.
| General Discussion » An open letter to my LGBT spouse » March 31, 2022 8:10 am |
- Clif
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It resonates with me as well. Ex-wife was always looking for something new. New curtains. New furniture. New car. When all the time what she wanted was a new life with a new wife. Nothing really made her happy. Don't know if she is now or not. Not me monkeys. Not my circus.
| General Discussion » First Time Sharing » March 3, 2022 12:57 pm |
- Clif
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You said, "I still have yet to come to terms with how we could have had such a great intimate and romantic life for 10 years, and then ‘poof’ she’s gay, but I understand it’s complex."
I remember this feeling quite well. I was married to my ex for 27 years.
Luckily we were a bit older when this happened and the kids had grown up and moved out. I actually believe that this was the catalyst for her.
That happen 12 years ago. Hard to believe it was that long ago now that I am typing it.
I just attended her mothers funeral and it was the first time I had seen her in about 6 years. Had no real emotion over it though. She has moved across the country and we have no relationship. (Except I still get to 'share' my pension with her)
I have been remarried for 11 years now and I am the happiest I have been in my lifetime.
One day you will look back and it will seem like a movie you haven't seen in decades and it will only be partially real.
Best wished!
(Another rural STR8)
Clif