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Support » For Those of Faith » June 7, 2021 1:03 pm

Since the TGT announcement from my stbx, I had to seek a new church too.  The kids and I (we don't have 50/50- more like 95/5) made it a mission to find one we like and have settled on one after five months now.  Each week it seems like the songs and sermon are directed right at healing my heart. 

Just wanted you to know that you aren't the only one.  God loves YOU and has a purpose for YOUR life. 

General Discussion » The Cult of Trans » April 27, 2021 4:45 pm

Now if there was only one for getting husbands out . . . 

Support » Why I Suddenly Know It's Over » April 27, 2021 4:41 pm

I'm sorry to hear your husband is escalating and hiding these things.  But sadly I can relate.  Keep in mind that unless you want to be married to a woman or be forced to divorce one, you might want to start making arrangements to file sooner rather than later.  Once my stbx started down the path, I put in motion filing for divorce because I do not wish to be married to a woman and there is nothing to stop him from changing his legal identity before a divorce can be finalized.  I know of other women who have had to divorce a "wife" instead of a husband and that wasn't going to be me. 

Support » Married to Transgender - Seeking Input from similar who stayed married » April 19, 2021 3:27 pm

I'm pushing 50.  As soon as he disclosed his belief that he was transgender, I started making arrangements for him to move out. Why should I be forced to compromise my beliefs and identity after all of the deception he was responsible for?

Support » Feeling of Sexual Violation » April 5, 2021 9:17 pm

This issue of the lack of agency is what I keep coming back to.  I keep telling my stbx who has determined he is now trans- you took away my ability to make choices.  It's not the truth that you finally learned this about yourself, you knew that you had struggled with these issues before we got married, but never said one word to me.  I would not have chosen him as my only sexual partner.  I would not have married him if I had known that he had ever cross-dressed.  I would never have moved several times, I would never have given up my career.  

I have now internalized more than 15 years of wondering what was wrong with me and thinking if I was just thinner or prettier or something, he would want me.  And I can tell myself over and over again that it wasn't me, it was him, but I spent all that time and now I wonder how I can ever be enough for someone.  I have lost all of this time and now I'm old and the only person I've ever had sex with didn't want me.  

Support » Do you wish? » March 29, 2021 4:28 pm

OutofHisCloset wrote:

What I wish is not that I could go back to not knowing.  What I wish is that it hadn't been true.

 

This.

General Discussion » One trans widow's perspective, 30 years later » March 22, 2021 9:37 pm

Thank you for sharing.  It saddens me to think this has been going on for decades.  And yes, complete and utter selfishness, especially to take away a kid's dad.  

Support » Constant anxiety » March 22, 2021 9:26 pm

Hellobritty- my husband informed me in the fall that he believed himself to be transgender.  He moved out in January because I was not comfortable with him "experimenting" in front of me and our kids.  You definitely have financial recourse even as a SAHM.  Especially in the great state of Texas.  

Feel free to send me a message if you need resources or need someone to bounce ideas off of.  

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