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Support » Afraid to be Alone » February 17, 2018 1:40 am

majenco
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I feel your pain.  But it’s still early for you.  Give it time.  No decisions need to be made immediately.  Gain your strength.  Take care of you.  There is llove at any age if you want it.  Right now focus on you.  A happy healthy you will lead you where you are meant to go.
Hugs and peace.

Support » Can some People not mend and have permission to end » February 12, 2018 6:11 pm

majenco
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As usual, Kel is spot on.  Please don’t give up.  Don’t let him win.  Fight for all the good things that life has to offer.  Where there is life there is hope.  Stay with us.  See another sunrise and think about what you love about the world, yourself.  You sound like a caring and giving person.  Be that person for yourself.

Support » Can some People not mend and have permission to end » February 11, 2018 12:40 am

majenco
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Not a sin.  But you seem to be suffering from depression.  Of course who wouldn’t under the circumstances?  I suggest a new therapist and perhaps some medication to help you through this most difficult time.  Your perspective is skewed right now.  You have lost hope.  Hope exists out there.  You just need to see it.  Spending all day in hospice and crying all night will not get you where you need to go.  Self care is important right now.  Take up a hobby, join a support group.  You need to seek outside yourself for a while to lift up your perspective.  There is beauty and life left for you.  I fully support assisted suicide.  It’s for terminally ill people.  You are not terminally ill.  You are depressed.  I hope you find a way out of the darkness to the light that is definitely there. 
All the best.

Support » Can some People not mend and have permission to end » February 10, 2018 3:24 am

majenco
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Do not let him win.  Do not let him rob the world of the wonderful person that is you.  You may have mated for life but your life can go on and be great.  You just can’t see it now and that’s understandable.  You still share a home, holding out hope for this relationship on a daily basis is causing you pain over and over.  I hope you can find support and a plan to leave him and start a life where you put self care first.  Try it please before you make any rash decisions.  We care about you and want you to go on to the happiness you deserve.

Support » She keeps hurting me » December 25, 2017 3:28 pm

majenco
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Count,
Tell your parents.  You need support.  She doesn’t even need to know you told them.  Just get what you need at this time.  You can deal with telling the kids once you get therapy.  You are so hurt right now.  You did nothing wrong.  At this time above all others you must practice self care.  You are in the early days, it will get better but you are in shock.  Don’t do this alone.  She has no right to demand that of you.  Step out of her closet and speak with your family.

General Discussion » Merry Christmas » December 25, 2017 3:22 pm

majenco
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Merry Christmas everyone!
I hope the New Year brings everyone closer to the peace and happiness they so richly deserve.

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » December 14, 2017 6:55 pm

majenco
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I get what you’re saying about magnetic attraction.  I just think that bisexuality has varying shades of gray.  Very few are out.  The ones in happy monogomous heterosexual relationships or MOMs with straights are basically invisible or the ones in gay relationships are also invisible.  How would anyone know they are bisexual if they are monogamous with a wife or husband?  It’s called Bisexual invisibility.  I think there might be more monogomous bisexuals than you think.

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » December 14, 2017 5:13 pm

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I totally agree  that for monogamy to work there has to be sexual attraction.  I just meant I think it’s a choice because I don’t view bisexuality as a valid reason for cheating.  There is no valid reason for cheating.  If you change your mind or you want to open the marriage you need to communicate that to your partner and then they get to have a choice the same as you. 
Some people are not geared toward monogamy, those people should not be married or should be in open marriages that all parties agree to.

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » December 14, 2017 12:07 pm

majenco
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Elexoh,
I feel your pain so intently.  I know how it feels.  It will get better.  I wish I could tell you when.  I cannot.  Hang on.  You will feel happiness again.

Is He/She Gay » A gay ex-husband answers your questions » December 14, 2017 11:55 am

majenco
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Hi Lilly,
To try and answer some of your questions...
I am by no means an expert on bisexuality but from what I have read and spoken to some bisexuals about there are varying degrees of bisexuality.  I think that’s what you mean about percentages.  If a husband is more towards the gay end of the spectrum then there’s less hope for the marriage but there are those that are on the “mostly straight” end of the spectrum.  Those would be more able to maintain a straight marriage.
As far as someone being able to have sex with a woman if you’re gay, of course it’s possible.  I think Cameron’s words about trusting your insticts on this is sound. 
I am in a unique position I feel because my husband has never avoided sex with me nor have I felt it was lacking  in intimacy.
Now as for monogamy, I feel that is an entirely separate issue.  Monogamy is a choice regardless of sexual orientation.

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