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| Our Stories » My wife of 10 1/2 years » November 12, 2021 8:50 pm |
- jrteeter
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I met my wife 15 years ago. She was in a relationship with another woman. That relationship soured and we began dating. At first it was long distance dating and then she moved in. We were partners for 5 years and married for 10.
She always identified as a lesbian even in our relationship together which was fine by me. We were experimental with sex and were outgoing activists within the community. I felt that I had found the love of my life who shared the same values that I did.
We had been distant for the last 3 months. The pandemic had finally eased up and she could go back to school full time and I could go back to work. Our two kids got to go back to in person classes as well so there was a lot going on.
She told me a week ago that she was gay. She wants to only be with women and I am no longer the exception to the rule. It's devastating for me. I never thought she put her sexuality to the side for me, but I thought she carved out a little place in her heart for me. I was wrong.
I am still trying to make the relationship work. I want to see counselors and do any other work that is needed to save our relationship, but every moment of the day fills me with more and more dread.
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