Islander,

Your story is similar to mine. After 13 yrs. together, married for 10, my husband, completely out of the blue, told me he was attracted to men. I thought we had the perfect marriage, and we were both happy. We stayed together for another 9 months, and then he finally told me he was gay and that's how he wanted to live his life. That he was happy with me, but not happy enough.

I thought he was my best friend and was devastated for everything I was losing. I was sorry to put our child through this situation. I hoped to somehow keep our friendship.
He moved out 9 months ago, and things have not been easy. I have so many emotions; I don't think love is one of them anymore. 
The person I used to know is gone. I cannot understand how a person can live as straight for 44 yrs, marry twice, and finally decide it's time to be true to himself, without having hid other traits of their personality as well. Now I'm left to deal with a person who puts his interests above our child's. I wish I never had to see/deal with him, but I have to because of our child. Co-parenting is not going well.
Good luck on your journey.
 

What I think about you:
That you were a coward for not dealing with your feelings a long time ago.
That I hope one day you love somebody as much as I loved you, believe that that person loves you and will always be there for you, that you have found your best friend, and someone that accepts you just the way you are. That you feel like the luckiest person in the world for having that person next to you, that you wonder how you got to be so lucky. And that one day, that person stops loving you, and takes everything you ever believed to be true from you. That you feel abandoned, betrayed, and hopeless, with a big whole where your heart used to be. That all your plans for your life are erased with just a few words. That you are left picking up the pieces of your life and wondering how you ever ended up in that situation. When all of that happens, you will finally understand the impact your decisions have had in my life.
And really, go f&ck yourself.

Let me start by saying that I don't have anything against how people chose to live their lives, as long as they are honest with themselves and those around them.
I am having a difficult time with people celebrating Pride month this year. I feel like people are happy for my husband coming out as gay, and for "embracing who he really is". But what about the damage to me and our son? What about the pain that he has caused me? Nobody thinks about the collateral damage that his actions have caused.

Fury,
I've had a similar situation. My husband of 11 yrs (together for almost 14) told me 9 months ago that he was attracted to men. We spent 8 months trying to figure things out. I thought we were doing okay; that he could still be happy being married to me, but 3 weeks ago he told me that in order for him to be happy, he needs to live his life as a gay man. I asked him to move out. We have a child together, and pretty much I only communicate with him when it's something related to our kid. My approach has been to cut him completely of my life. I lost my husband and the person I thought was my best friend. I try to focus on one day at a time; not to dwell on the past, and to start planning a future for my child and myself. There are a lot of reasons to be resentful, heartbroken, and sad about what we're losing; about the plans we had for the future, but I can't think about it, otherwise it would be too overwhelming. 
Some days are better than others. Hope you find the motivation you need to move forward.

Today is the day when my husband will be moving out of our house. We still have to tell our 10 yr. old son that we are separating. My husband thinks we should tell him about his sexual orientation as the reason for us splitting up. I wonder if it might be too much information all at once for him to handle. I think my husband wants to be true to himself, and doesn't want to hide it from our son.
My step-son is also gay. I am afraid that my son will, at some point, question his own sexual orientation, with both his dad and brother being gay.
I wonder if others with children could share their experiences when it came to tell them about the gay parent.
Our son already sees a counselor for an unrelated issue. We have reached out to her for advise as well.